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writes:My bf and I broke up 3 weeks ago. I guess he wanted it more than I did so you can say he broke up with me. It wasnt a bad break up but we were together for 2 years! I have been doing fine without him except these past couple of days have been really rough for me. I miss him so much and im realizing how much I love him. I want to get back together and fix things, but I don't know how to approach him because I dont want to scare him off. I keep thinking what if hes thinking what I am and he just hasnt talked ti him like i havent talked to him or what id he just doesnt care anymore. We broke up cuz we were bickering, but other than that our relationship was great! Bickering is something that can be fixed, so I want to prove to him we can work it out. What should I do?? Wait for him to contact him, but in the meantime move on? Or contact him and say what? My stomach is in knots thinking about this. I want him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Start trying to move on and don't contact him... I know its painful and hard to resist the urge to contact him, but it really is in your best interests not to.
Give him space and time to think... After 2 years, he's definitely missing things about you too, but if he wants to get back together then he'll come to you on his own accord, but he's not going to come back to you as a result of you trying to "prove" to him that you guys can work. You can't see the future so you can't prove anything to him, so just don't say anything.
That's my 2 cents... I just know that if after only 3 weeks after breaking up with a girl she wanted to have all these "we can fix this", "we can change", "I can change" deep and meaningful conversations that I'd seriously distance myself from her and need even more space to clear my head.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Hi there.
This is a tough one, if i were you i would just drop him an email explaining that you would like to spend some time talking with him to see if you can fix the problems in your relationship.
Explain that you miss his company, and that you would really like to work things out together.
Try not to make the email sound desperate or needy (i know this can be difficult) but just open up to him about how you feel. I'm sure if he still cares (which he probably will after 2 years together) then he will talk with you.
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