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female
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36-40,
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writes:I met this guy two years back and we started dating and were in a relationship for over a year. While we were together (during the one year) everything between us was good for few months but his family came to know and his mom didn't approve of me due to lame reasons(caste n height diff)and asked him to break up with me and he kept this to himself and started behaving strangely and let me know this after months ..mutually we decided to break up and i asked him to not stay in contact as i wont be able to move on ....i was miserable after break up and he seemed to be having a nice time and he also started dating this other chic. After 5 months due to reasons he called me once and then twice and apart from that we spoke generally also very nicely so then he started calling me every other day. and we met .....and he said he realized the other chic was a rebound and he will break up ...so we were back again together .Apparently till now that chic is not ready to leave him ..its been long enough ( 5 months) ...he had an accident during this time and is on bedrest so he cant work and hence even broke for now.. i was still with him as a good friend ...understanding .... (we also had a pact that we wont be saying it to ppl tht we r together as its too much of a mess to explain) but three four times we had a fight and i was upset and crying so i spoke about this to 2 friends of mine who saw me crying and upset and were asking Q continously. i even told him that she knows but then suddenly now he doesnt want to be with me as he says that i am going around telling people and they will think that he is a total ass and is also hurt that i discussed his personal life with ppl. Now i dont know what to do. I have been saying sorry but he says we can be friends if you want ....Please tell me what to do? i want to fix everything thats going wrong ...i love him
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 Okay no dating you want to date he want friends can you blame him. His mom might be making choices might be him. Really something is odd about this if he is a asshole then or now and everyone plus you feel or believe this why would he be in such a akward scenario again after it's all said and done He must think your not that sorry or really you meant things you say and do trust issues and communication guess you won't be going anywhere without those.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 I am sorry that you love him because I really doubt he feels the same way. He is scared that people will think he is being an ass because that is exactly what he is being and he knows it. He is with this other girl, if she was just a rebound he would have ended it, if he loved you then he would have ended it to be with you. It seems he is just keeping you at the side in case things do not work with this new other girl. If he wanted to be with you then he would. He is not worth it honey honestly he is not, I know you probably just keep making excuses for him, but he will never treat you right. The best thing to do is to break off all contact again.
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