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writes:Hello all, I am a 28 year old working female. I am single and haven't seen anyone for a while. There are many reasons for this so let me explain.1) I was dating a guy.. for about a year. I was deeply in love with him... Even though I knew there were many limitations to the relationship I hoped for it to work but in the end we broke up when I found out he was talking to another girl. I broke up with him but haven't been able to date anyone since. Partly because even when I tried I couldn't get him out of my head. And Partly cause I am scared of getting hurt. My belief in the whole relationship and monogamy thing has been shattered. 2) Which brings me to the second part. I think I am deeply monogamous. I may get bored.... maybe. But somehow I think that won't happen. I truly loved him and the more deeper I got, the more I wanted to be with him and no one else. 3) I have never had sex which might be shocking for some. But now than ever more... I feel a certain fear when I think of someone touching me. I may be mildly hypochondriacal. I used to tell my ex he had to get tested along with myself if we were to ever have sex. But it is the emotional invasiveness too which I can't even imagine.4) I have been bullied a lot during my high school years. And this has lead me to be a little aloof of people. I am a bit scared of becoming too close to people because this fear of being bullied is there constantly in me. I can't make friends easily. And now I have grown to live alone and I feel its frustrating sometimes when I have to try to connect with people.5) I seem to always gravitate towards impossible relationships. Some dreamy part of me loves to imagine a grand miraculous relationship that is perfect. And I know it doesn't happen but I always get somehow into these fantasy-like relationship/dating situations.I recently talked with a guy who is from Canada. We met over the internet on facebook. He made a video for one of those pop-culture sites and I added him on facebook and he accepted. For a few days we were like best beds. But he wanted to talk on Skype and I talked with him once... but after that I couldn't do it. Because he was so good looking ... and I am not so much.. so just talking to him made me panic. Plus again this whole fantasy like situation which may never happen. He stopped replying after a while as well... so it eventually fizzled out.But I am in this deep hole. I want to get out of it. I want to feel whole and satisfied and fulfilled. What should I do? I want to be in a relationship. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2015): Forget the past, don't worry about the future, jump into the moment head first, like a bungee jump and start living, laughing and loving. Life and love can be one big adventure if you let go of heavy emotional stuff, be carefree and meet like minded people on the way,life is too short for analyzing,just live it.
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reader, LifeisStrange +, writes (18 October 2015):
 From all the things you have said it seems like you don't have much self confidence when it comes to relationships and I can really relate to a lot of things you have said.It can be really hard to feel like you will ever find someone else when you have been in love with someone so deeply. After my last break up I felt miserable and thought I would never find anyone else again, but someone will come along for you like they did for me when you least expect it.Who is to say you may never have these fantasy like relationships you think of. I am a firm believer that there is a soul mate out there and they will come along with time. I cannot say for sure but I believe I have found mine just as I was giving up and it took three and a half years of being single. Don't be self conscious about how you look in comparison to others. When I compare myself to who I am seeing now I feel like a troll because she is so beautiful.I understand that you may feel ugly and never find anyone but you will one day. You seem like a sweet and caring person and I'm sure there are many people out there who would long for someone like you.
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