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*arlingilikeyou
writes:I don't feel as though i'm good enough for anyone... I know that many people say that and think it, and i'm just another. My freshman year of high school, I found my first love and everything was absolutely bliss. I truly loved him and I always will, but unfortunately I screwed everything up and ended something so amazing and was never able to get it back. Ever since then, i've only been seen as a hook up and not good enough for anything more. I just don't understand... is this karma at it's worst? I just want to feel wanted and not used. I don't know what I should or what I can do. I miss flirting, I miss having someone to talk to, I miss cuddling, I miss being cared for, I miss caring for someone, I miss getting butterflies over someone, I miss smiling just thinking about someone... It all seems impossible. Help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): You cannot be used for sex against your will. You have to choose to use your body just like the guys are. They want to use your body to get sex from someone, and you want to use your body to get affection from someone. You are both guilty of using your body.
If you want more than sex then demand it. If you don't demand more from a guy before giving him sex, then don't complain when you don't ever get more from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): My advice is when you find a guy you like, don't "hook up" with him right away. No making out, sex, or whatever it is you consider a hook up. If a guy is interested in more, he'll wait. If he's not, he won't, (and not worth it anyway.) If you have a reputation, you have to turn it around. It may take some time.
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reader, ZoeHannah  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 Hi darlingilikeyou :)It sounds like you may be dependant on the validation that a relationship brings, and this is why you are feeling so used.Often time it is because we are putting so much pressure on what our perception of something is, that causes us to become down hearted. For example, you say your last relationship was perfect. Don't expect perfect right now, rather enjoy.It's great that you have identified what you want. As brilliant as being in a great relationship can be it is also very important to learn how to make yourself happy, and Relationships will come and go, and you won't always have that special person there to make you happy. So this is the time for you.Focus on you. What makes you happy? what hobbies and interests do you have? Hope this helps and Best Wishes ZoëX x X
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