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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello Everyone,Well I am writing here because at this point I am totally confused. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 22 years old. We have been dating since highschool. Since about 11th grade so around the time we were both 17. We had our ups and downs like every relationship, never really broke up to the point of a real breakup. We had our arguments, and even if we did "breakup" it lasted like 2days-1 week, not even. Anyways I've been there for him through thick and thin. Did everything possible to make him happy considered his family situation and problems. I just feel like NOW he is taking our relationship for granted. We never really do anything anymore and he just comes over i feel just to get it out of the way. I am not the type of girl who is needy and wants expensive dinners. I am far from that. I would love for him to take me out somewhere even if it's to a park to look at birds. He JUST DOESNT DO ANYTHING FOR ME. I guess you can say I kind of don't want to lose him. I know he feels the same but sometimes he is just selfish.All of a sudden hes into his fitness. Good for you! I am so proud which I really am but he gets home from work and just works out to the point of him not calling me at night. I feel like im always making the move to call or text. I don't want to seem desperate and a needy bitch, I just want to feel appreciated and happy again. If it was a 2 month old relationship and this was happening I would just be like "whatever im gone" but its 4 years and good friends before that. Its hard for me to throw away something for this long. Please help me!Im afraid to tell him how I feel and be like "im sick of this etc." because Im afraid to lose him.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (5 September 2011):
 Hi, I can see where your frustration is coming from, but unfortunately communication is the only way that this can be solved. Neither men nor women are mind readers and he won't know how you feel under appreciated if you don't tell him. And complimentative to that...how about you find yourself something to occupy your time. He obviously has an outlet through his new fitness regime...do you sit at home waiting for him to call or waiting for him to go out with you? I highly hope not. That would be foolish despite how many years you have put into this.You guys have been in a relationship for a really long time. Like all long term relationships, things get monotonous, lack excitement and where sure....he should find time to go out with you etc....number 1, he doesn't know you want that...number 2..you should not soley rely on him for any joy in your life. Make yourself happy...go do your own thing...if he's worth any salt he'll realise...crap...I should really handle my stories where the love of my life is concerned...she's not "waiting" on my anymore.Unfortunately, there are times when all our efforts result in a less than favorable outcome...and we lose someone we love. But if you are under appreciated, not being treated right etc...does love really compensate for that?Think of it...know your worth and do the right thing. Communicate what you want to him...if he loves you enough to make a change...beautiful...if he doesn't...then 4 years or 4 mins, he doesn't deserve you.Aunty Ana
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