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writes:heya im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been datimg for over a month now, its going really well and for some reason i just really want to fall in love with him!I keep thinking to myself "i really just wanna fall in love with him cos everyone says its such a wonderful feeling."why am i thinking like this?do you think it will prevent me from falling in love with him if i keep thinking in this way?thank you for everyones advise Reply to this Question
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Love is not instant, love is not guaranteed, love comes naturally. You can't force it, you can't rush it, you just have to let it be. Love comes in its own sweet time and when you least suspect it. But you'll know when it arrives.
Is he your first boyfriend? If so then I think you have looked at other couples you see in your daily life and what you see on tv and what you hear in songs and you build up an image of what love should be. And what a relationship should be like. And I think you have the wrong kind of idea about it. Unfortunately love doesn't work how it does in movies. It seems like you just want to fall in love because its something to do or just for the sake of it. If you think about love in that way then it will never happen. Just leave it and let it happen naturally and stop focusing on it so much.
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