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writes:I want to enjoy uni and freshers week to its full potential, but my mother wont let me go freshers week, stay out till late or sleepover at a friend's dorm. I still live at home and i want to have fun at the same time whilst at uni. I'm planning on moving out in my second year but i really want to enjoy myself and get to know people during freshers week. How can i persuade her to let me enjoy uni life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014): Your mom is just looking out for you so I don't know why you're complaining. At least you have a mother that shows her concern for you with all the stupid people out there these days, doing all kinds of crazy.
I lost my mother, my stepfather, and my father while in college and I'm in college now. University life is about getting an education to better yourself, getting involved to separate yourself from others, accepting responsibilities as an adult, working to stand on your own.
Sure you should enjoy independence as an adult, but responsibly. Staying up all night with a bunch of people being stupid and drinking is not that
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2014): Until you're 18, and you no longer live with her there's not much you can do but compromise.
What's "full potential"? Because freshers week is mainly just drinking all day and then going to a foam party/UV party/Beach party/Fancy dress etc then crawling home, hopefully alive and STD free.
Get rid of the full potential stuff and bargain with her. She may let you go to some clubs and parties if you leave at a set time and she collects you etc.
OP your best bet is to make deals with her, your excuse is bullshit. You can get to know people all day that the events take place and be home for 12 or whatever still. You have three more freshers weeks after this to "enjoy" uni life.
Just take what you can get and offer to do all the dishes, laundry for a month or something to get some extra hours or permissions to do things.
FYI: Freshers week is the same as any week except there's more themed stuff. There'll be raves, society sessions, open mics etc. all year round.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2014): Ask her what kind of place would she like you to live in and see if it would be possible. Tell her that you want space. Dont shout it. Every person who lives at home when they go to college feels that they need to move out but you'll always have a home to go to at the weekends and she can visit you. Have a reliable friend that you can count on to live with so that she knows that you can be taken care of when you needed help. Thats what I did this year and it worked for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2014): I understand where you are coming from. Don't fight with your mom but instead go with the flow of things. Have you ever invited your mother to come with you to a uni event just so she can see even for one night what you might be up to. Maybe you can make compromises with her such as contact her every hour by phone. Go home at a reasonable hour, and not on a school night. It is great that you will be moving the second session, but also remember you are living under your parents roof. Their roof, their rules. She may also be worried about your safety, and she has good reason to be as well. Go with a large group of friends and all girls. Maybe your mom might enjoy the games and meet some folks herself. The first year in school helps to determine the kind of student you will become so don't blow it and cheers!
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