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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am having a relationship with a work collegue, who is married. She keeps saying she has feelings for me but only stays in her marriage because of her children. This has been going on for about two years. Certain things dont add up and I want to end it, however she keeps throwing how strong her feelings are for me. I feel used. Any advice to end this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): do what is right for you. not for the manipulative married woman who is stringing along her hb and you as well.
if she wants a life with you, she needs to do the right thing by her hb and leave.
why would you want to have her in your life anyways. someone who screws on her hb. do you think she will be any different if she was your committed partner/wife?
Time for some hard decisions.
LoveGirl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): Ask her if you can meet with her husband to ask him if he would allow her a divorce because she would rather be with you...... you will see some superfast backtracking as she has no intention of leaving her cosy home and loving husband - she is just using you because you make her ego feel good.
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reader, Jay25  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 By throwing up her feelings she is manipulating you, if she is married with children then she will never be totally free to fully commit and things could get very messy.
If you want to end the affair be strong and dont let yourself be manipulated do what will make you happy.
All the best whatever your decision
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 You are being used, but... YOU ARE ALSO LETTING HER USE YOU.
Obviously it's not a very healthy relationship, I strongly suggest you a. look for a new job and b. stop seeing her.
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reader, sinki  +, writes (20 August 2010):
Hi dear
I would advice you to end it. You are not even sure whether she really wants to end her marriage or not and if thats what you want anyway. Do the right thing and walk away dear.
Much love
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Yes I do have some advice
"Dont let yourself be used then"
You are quite capable of finding someone wth no commitments. So why dont you?
If this lady really loves you, she will end her marriage and be with you. But is that what you want?
In my opinion, you should do the right thing and walk away.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): HEY! Have you heard? 'Who lies for you, will lie against you'. Do you really think you have future with her?
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