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writes: I like this new girl im seeing she seems really nice and sweet and i think that we would get on really well together, although im just worried becuse unfortunetly she lives very close (when i say close im mean close ,couple doors down) to my ex gf who i have to be honest still miss very deeply,even though she was extrmely abusive to me emotionally and the relationship left me both physically and emotionally scared from our time together but thats a wholenother complicated novel of a story in its self,What i guess im asking for is a little advice,i suppose it would be half and half me getting together with this new girl partly because i DO like her but also partly to help me get over my ex, now i know its TOTALLY wrong to use someone to help get over someone elese i know this because i have experinced it myself 1st hand so i would never do that to a girl as i know how crushing it can be and i want to make it clear this is NOT what it would be, because i DO like her tooits just its been around 8 months now since i split up from my ex and i really havent been coping well from it i have to admit to a very extreme degree i might add ie anti deprssents and couple councilng sessions due to the emotinal and physical injury,but i really am feeling alot better and am ready to start dating again so i have to move on sooner or later for my own good and i also know that this new girl really seems to like me 2 and would like to take things further,she is aware that me and this other girl dated and knows briefly but not indepth about what happned so i think it WOULD be a misstake not to persue it and take things further as it could turn out to be somthing really good between us but its still early days so's it wouldnt be a big deal to get out now,I want to do what's best for her and myself?would be nice to get some points of view on this,1 is this justifable you think being half and half and 2 due to the closeness of things could doubtfully but maybe become uncomfortable or awcward because of it. thankyou
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Well your relationship past is pretty rocky, plus still facing effect of that relationship today that's why i think you should take things slow. I think it's great you dating again and want to move forward with you relationahip with this new girl. But i do think that taking things slow is a must espically if you've come out of an abusive realationship you need time to really heal, you don't wanna rush and have old feeling or old memories come up and ruin your relationship.
Plus your young you don't need to define your relationship you could just enjoy being together... and in time you'll know when your ready to take the next step and you won't need to ask what to do.
Good luck
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