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writes:okay so , I am falling for my bestfriends brother and he is 2 years older than me. the thing is that he sent a picture to me and we really like each other , my beatfriend (his sister) found out about pictures we've sent before and she didn't talk to me for a couple days , him and I have had conversations about him finguring me and stuff like that ! we are falling for each other , I am going over to their house in a couple weeks and I told him and he said " when you guys are in the basement come upstairs and say you have to go to the bath room , but we will do shit " . I want to but I'm scared if my bestfriend will find out ? what should I do ? I need your help really bad 3thank you very much guuuys (:
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 He doesn't want you. YOU are falling for him, he ISN'T falling for you. If he was he wouldn't want to hide it from his sister.
Don't risk a good friendship for a bad hook up, it will come out in the end and you will be the one looking like a total sleaze.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah I guess you guys are right . well for a fact I know you guys are right because I felt really bad and their mom and I are very close so I told her and she told me the same thing , I guess I just needed to hear it from different people , thank you very much . I'm gonna go to her house and explain everything and tell her and show her everything and I think I would want to meet with her brother and my bestfriend just so things don't go wrong and blow up !
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Yeah, first of all, your best friend's brother is wanting sex, not you. If both of you were really truly into each other, it wouldn't be a secret. You would have had a conversation with your best friend and would have told her that you and her brother are becoming closer.
Your conversations are about "doing shit" and "fingering". You're hiding it like it's something dirty. Ever stop to think that your best friend felt like you didn't respect her enough to let her know what was going on?
A RELATIONSHIP is never a dirty little secret, and feeling like you have to keep it a secret almost always dooms it. Not only that, but dirty sex in a back room while lying about going upstairs makes you appear cheap to him AND your best friend.
Finally, and I'm being serious, if you can't value your best friend higher than some sexual tryst, then you do not deserve friends. Your best friend should be someone where not even the hint of disloyalty would even begin to cross your mind. This means you do NOT steal her guy, you do NOT side with her ex, and you always are open with her. If she is a true best friend, she'd be proud of you dating her brother, unless he's got a girlfriend or wife. Then, again, you don't tear her family up.
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