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writes:Me and my ex (mentioned in previous question) have no decided not to carry on our relationship as it would be unfair on everyone with our constant arguing.There is a barmaid at my local who I have always liked who ended up dating a guy, naturally I was jealous of this. I was at her house the other weekend having a couple of drinks when we both realised our true feelings for eachother. This weekend she had split up with her fella and she stayed at my house (nothing sexual) and I'm getting mixed messages to whether she likes me enough to be with me. Another concern of mine is my ex always had a suspicion of something going on (there hasn't been when I was with her) and I don't want her getting the wrong end of the stick if anything does amount from this!I really need advice as I can't concerntrate at work and I'm certainly not sleeping or eating well.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 November 2012):
 What your ex might think or "suspect" is not really any of your problem. If you two broke up you are FREE to date someone else. Don't worry about your ex.
Just go slow with you new girl, that way you both can be sure that you really want to be together - that it's not just hormones talking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): First off the ex is irrelevant and what end of the stick she gets is not an issue. You and she broke up because you didn't work well together and that was it. Who you date now and what she thinks of it doesn't matter at all.
As for bar girl OP, she's just out of a relationship. Now depending on how long they were together and how she felt about him you cannot trust any form of signals at the moment, it could just be rebound. You really don't want to get caught up in that, women tend to cling onto the first guy who gives them attention after a break up, they show all the signs that they like that guy but once the pain of the break up subsides they realize they don't feel that way in most cases. You quite simply cannot trust the emotions of a rebound girl.
If she was only dating him a few weeks and she doesn't seem all that cut up about it, then I wouldn't hesitate to make a move. Screw your ex OP, she either won't care, or it doesn't matter who the girl is she'll be a bit jealous and annoyed but you can't live your life worrying about what she thinks or be afraid to move on because of that either.
"we both realised our true feelings for eachother"
It could be rebound OP so be careful, she may not have the feelings she thinks she has, it all depends on the emotional connection she had to the guy and how tough she;s finding the break up and no OP, it doesn't matter if she's acting and talking like it was nothing, she could just be putting a brave face on it.
If it was a short term thing, I'd make a move. Long term thing I'd stay away.
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