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writes:So i met this girl over the summer at a camp, and we hit it off right from the start, and we've just been talking non-stop for the past month and a half, and she does have a boyfriend, but she says she sees a longer lasting and more fulfilling relationship with me.The one thing that is keeping her from breaking up with her boyfriend, is that i live 40 minutes away, but her boyfriend is right there for her at her school. I told her i would be willing to drive down whenever she felt she needed me there, but she doesn't think it would be the same.It kills me because i just feel like we are meant to be together, we are fantastic with each other. And her boyfriend and her have not had a great relationship, and a lot of her good friends don't think he's right for her. I want to convince her that the distance is something easily overcome, but i don't know what to tell her other than what i already have said!Some more information on why she is so stuck on the distance thing is that she's really busy during the school year, so the few opportunities we would have would be spontaneous, and also she doesn't feel like it would be the same, despite me telling her i am willing to drive down at any time she needs me there.What can i tell her?! any help would be much appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (14 August 2008):
 you're doing the best you can. my advice is to just make her like you more and more through phone conversations and visits. honestly, 40 minutes is nothing!
what i am worried about is the fact that she is dating someone and is already looking around for a new guy... if you date her, how would you feel to find out she is doing the exact same thing to you?
take it one step at a time. stay her friend for now. see if she breaks up with her boyfriend. then make a move.
you guys have got to stick together, girls can be trouble!
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 you cant make her change her mind you can only tell her how you feel and what options are available and if she doesnt take them or squanders on them then she just wants her cake and too eat it. distance is a very hard thing i should know im doing it and its much farther than you by times 10 . if your both willing to make it work then it can work. but the fact she doesnt feel good for her bf but yet shes leading him on ? she doesnt sound like a person with her morals in the right place ? you both have to decide what you want but she either has to take a leap or not but you cannot wait your whole life for her to take the leap and dump her bf..sometimes its a case of right person wrong time. just tell her that you are willing to make it work but you need to know if she is and if she isnt then its over im afraid. good luck aphex xx
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