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female
age
36-40,
*peedy121
writes:Hi guys this is quite confusing... 2 and a half years agoin the summer i met this guy we hit it off and we made it offical 1 year later we were goin out for roughly 1 year 3 months, it was good we spent all the time we could together sometimes from early morning til late at night. I love him i really do but he made me so mad at times it was so frustrating we could fall out once everyday easily. recently i started a new college and there was this guy immediatly i fancied him but was stil in a relationship. Things changed and we went on a break i havnt Kissed the boy from college but we are texting hes told me he likes me. The thing is i love the other guy but like this guy 2... I really think in the future i could get back with my ex but i dont know how to go about letting people down and stuff like that... It makes me really sad cos i really dont wana hurt anyone
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reader, goodbyehello93 +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Okay. You are definitely making things really complicated! Choose one person and stick to it. If you feel like you don't have feelings for a guy anymore, then tell him just that. It's worse to keep him around when clearly your interested in someone else. That would make him feel even worse, you know?
It's never easy breaking up with someone you've been dating for a while, but breaking up hurts nonetheless. It will be double sided. He will get hurt and you will too. So just look at where you stand and make a decision.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 October 2010):
First of all, you need to accept there will be no future with the first guy. You can't seriously come out of this relationship, see Guy 2 and then one day go back to Guy 1. He won't wait. So you've got to just move on.
Secondly, get on with the break so he can move on. Seriously. I know you don't want to hurt him, but you WILL hurt him, he WILL cry, this WILL break his heart. We've all been there. But you know what? He will live. He will fight another day and find someone else who can offer him the love you just can't.
It's hard breaking up with someone. But you need to just get on with it, accept he will not like it and move on. Don't prolong his suffering. That will just hurt him more. Time to step up and do the right thing. Do it quickly, calmly and in person. Then move on with your life and don't look back.
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