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writes:So me and my bf have been dating for a good four months but it feels like so much more and now it's like smothering and want to brake up with him. The problem is not only the fact that he used to be my best friend but the fact that when ever he senses that I want to brake up with him he tells me how much he loves me and how that'll never change. And I don't know how to break his heart. I'm his first real girlfriend. So Help please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): Yes, I am his first real girfriend and I think he sucks at being a boyfriend because he doesn't know how to be one. He's been in love with me for a year and now I'm just feeling suffocated but I'm scared to break up with him cause I really don't want him to cry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): Are you sure your his first real girlfriend? He might be doing that because he isnt over an ex and is just tyring to keeo you for comfort and is being needy this is why he keeps telling you he loves you and you feel smothered. Dont let him pressure you into staying most likely he is "smothering" you because he just wants the comfort of a relationship, any relationship at this point. You should break up with him rather than staying with him because you are already feeling that its too much and you shouldnt feel that way in your relationship. Tell him that you just want to let it go because you dont feel the same anymore which is true you really dont and if he used to be your best friend its probably best that you two just stay friends because he is too eagered to be in a relationship for whatever reason this is why i mentioned maybe an ex girlfriend that he is trying to get over but they may not be the case. The true test is how he reacts when you finally break up with him for good if he is going to cry and beg for you back he isnt ready for a relationship at all so your best bet would be to let him go and not be in a relationship with him.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 Just break up with him. Ignore everything he says if you have to. It's kinder to just finish with him rather than go along with it but not want to. He might be heart-broken but he has to accept how you feel. There are two of you in a relationship and both of you should want to be in it. It isn't fair on you or him to carry on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 January 2010):
If you want to break up with him, no matter what, you have to do it. He will be hurt, and it sounds like he does know it's coming. But believe me it's better to do it now than string it out. You need to do this. Take him aside, be brave and tell him it's over. Be calm about it, but be firm. Let him go, no matter what he says.
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