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writes: Recently, my boyfriend got really drunk and cheated with a close friend of mine while I was away, out of town. She wanted them to not tell me but he couldn't bear it and told me a few days after I got back. He says he was so drunk he didn't know what he was doing and now that he realizes he is capable of doing such an awful thing he'll avoid drinking like that and similar situations in the future. To his defense, "my friend" whom I've known for years, is known for sleeping with anything that walks and coming on to guys ruthlessly and inappropriately (usually when she is drunk). I want to stay with him but I'm unsure if it's possible. Is it possible to be so drunk? Is it possible to heal a relationship after cheating? Could it really be an "accidental" one-time thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2005): Once a cheater always a cheater, dump him girl you can do so much better then him, his just not worth it.
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reader, louiseBaker +, writes (5 December 2005):
First of all if this girl really is such a ho then your boyfriend needs to get checked out for STD's at a clinic as soon as possible. If i was in this situation then i would split up for a bit to give myself some time to think about the situation and have some space. In this way you can also kind of tell how sorry your boyfriend is through the way he behaves during your time apart.x
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (5 December 2005):
Hello there,Im wondering how you exactly feel about your bf cheating on you? How does it make you feel about your relationship and who you are? or are you not really sure due to the fact that he was drunk and that could mean it was jsut an accident.Yes it is possible that somoene may have so much alcohol that they do not realise the consqquences of there actions so therefor they still do it, but it depends on the amount of alchol they take and how much there body pacifically can take of course. So yes medically (And i suggest if you still have doubts do some research! thats what the net is for. do some medical research of how alchol affects ones body) this is possible. To heal a relationship after someone cheated is possible, yet it takes work!I think its a GREAT sign that he admited it to you and that hes showing signs of guilt and has made the plan and promise to not put himself in a situation of drinking so much, thats good that hes planned ways to make sure it doesn't happen again. What else do you need? I think you should be greatful that hes said that, because in my opinion it shows that he really wants to work on it and honestly if he didnt, he would of not said any of that. Its important to tell him how you feel so he can worko n ways to make you feel good. After you are cheated often feelings of not being worthy, loved, pretty enough and such can arise. Its vital that these feelings are dealt with and that he reassures you.goodluck and I hope it works out for you and him! :)
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