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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, after finally escaping from a 2 year emotionally abusive relationship, I have met the perfect man, he's lovely, caring, funny, sensitive, a real gentleman, and the reason I know this is his real personality and not just a front... I have known the man 4 years, and for the first 3 he was going out with one of my best friends.Now they seperated a year back (my friend broke it off with him) she is now living with her new partner and pregnant with this new mans child.Through out her 3 year relationship with the man I now like, she treated him terribly, isolated him from his friends, constantly started arguments with him, controlled him etc. I always said he was to good for her.Now a year on me and him have been hanging out a lot, it started just as friends as we do get on really well, but we have both developed feelings for each other which he revealed to me a few months back. I however said it could never happen as I didnt want to do that to my friend, he's her ex after all.However it's now got to the point where I really can't control my feelings, I've been so unhappy for so long after being abused by my ex, I feel I deserve some happiness, Is it so wrong for me and this guy to make a go of things?He says he wants to be with me and that he will tell his ex everything, so if she does take it badly (and she's the kind of person who will) then he will take the blame and mine and her friendship wont be affected. I feel awful though, as it's both of us, not just him.She has moved on and is very happy with her new life, but I'm worried that she (and other mutual friends) will think I've betrayed her, wanting to be with her ex.What do you think I should do? Leave it and try to find someone else with less complications? Or follow my heart, braving it and telling her? Thanks
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