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writes:I am a female and in love with another female. I have shared my feelings to her and she has shared the same feelings with me. She is in a relationship for the past 11 years and I have been in one for the past 8. Mine just ended and she is still in the relationship. In this time frame we have remained freinds and we live in separate states. The feelings have never changed and I was just told the the only thing keeping us apart is the committed relationship. She is the love of my life and I would have gotten out of my relatioship had she asked me too. What can I do now. I want to be with her and I know that she feels the same....it's just making the move to end her relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Your answers are all great...and rest assured I have thought about it all.The reality is...and it's not in my mind...is that we are soul mates. The thing that has kept us apart all these years is fear. When we first met she was in a relationship...one that she thought would last a lifetime. Following her break up it was easier to be in a relationship that didn't matter if it ended or not. However, being in a relatinship with me does matter...so out of fear nothing has happened all these years.Over 10 yrs later...the feelings are still there...even though we don't see or speak to each other that often...but along with the feelings...there are circustances involved. Even though the person she is with...she is not in love with...she does love her...and I am sure that some (maybe even a lot) of the fear may still be there....that is the issue that I do not know how to overcome...or to just let go completely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Other than barging into her house and telling her mate your taking her away, the best you can do is move on without her and enjoy your life. When she's ready, she will come.
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reader, rproctor +, writes (22 April 2008):
Are you sure she is the love of your life? How many women have you been with? How many women have you been with that leaves a committed relationship for you? Perhaps after she leaves and comes to you she will resent you for leaving her previous partner for you... Maybe you will have trust issues with her, since she left her previous partner for you... What she will do for you she will do to you...
I have been in relationships similar to what you speak of, or known people who have been in one extreme or the other, and in almost every case it does not work out. Be weary of this, as it may not be what you imagine. Think hard and long about this first.
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