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writes: I like to be spanked but my husband just can't bring himself to do this,what can I do to change this and increase our sexlives. Reply to this Question
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reader, cat lady +, writes (8 January 2011):
 When you ask a question like this one, you have to give more details. What kind of spanking do you want? Just a few smacks on the buttocks to give you a nice tingle or do you want one that actually hurts? Do you want one held over his knee, as one does with a child, do you want to be lying down and free to get up or do you want to be tied up? The answers might be different in each case, you see, not to speak of the reactions of your husband.
I knew a man rather well once who didn't mind a little smack on the behind immediately after sex. He said it felt good then; it's good for the circulation and quite a stimulant too. Is that what you mean? If that's all, try that on your husband and see if he likes it. Then he'll understand you're just interested in some fun and you're not a pervert, like in the magazines he might have read when young.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 If he's fundamentally less adventurous in the bedroom than you are I can't see how it will ever happen. But if he's just too much of a gentleman, perhaps you find a way for him to accept being a bit less civilized under the sheets. He knows your fantasy is to be spanked. Perhaps you could find out some of his deep, dark fantasies, and act on one of them. Maybe then he'll let go a bit.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Am afraid there is nothing you can do about this if your husband doesnt feel comfortable doing it. Maybe sit down with him and ask him what it is that he doesnt like about it. Speak open and honest with him it is your best option. Ask him what it is that is holding him back and try and solve the issue by communicating with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): well i think you should make sure he knows that you wont force him into doing anything that he doesnt want to do. if you let him know that, as well as letting him know you are willing to be spanked when he is ready to, he will eventually come through for you. just give it time.
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