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writes:my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 weeks now. I thought that NC would do both of us some good and i have maintained NC for about 8 weeks. However the other day she talked to me again and said that she has a new boyfriend for about 8 weeks and is very happy. Hearing this has crushed me but i am happy for her in a way. The problem was that I had high hopes of getting back with her and thought that NC would help me. However it hasn't turned out the way I wanted. So my questions is should I try pursuing her once more even though she is happy? i want to be happy too but with her.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 The thing is you will continue to keep getting better and better. Sometimes we say to some people in life that we will love them forever and we truely mean it at the time, but am afraid people can just easily fall out of love as well even though they didnt want to therefore you need to be prepared that if someone says they love you it doesnt mean it will exsist for ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been doing my best to keep busy these past two months and it has been really hard especially when she's on my mind all the time. And yes she has been seeing someone a week after she ended things with me. That's why it hurts so much, not only was i rejected but I was replaced like I didn't even matter and that hurts more then I ever imagined. Especially when this person told me that she would love me forever. But the good news is that i'm a lot better then I was 2 months ago
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (13 November 2010):
I think it would be best to just not contact her in the future, let her contact you, she is the one that broke up with you so this tells me that she has met someone else and doesnt want you in her life anymore, if she wanted you she wouldnt have done what she done. I no its hard but you need to try and forget about her and move forward, allow your friends to be there for you and take your mind of her by doing things that distract you. once you finally feel that you are over her and have moved on then maybe you could give her a email to see how she is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe wasn't comfortable with the age difference between me and her, she's older then me by 8 years. It never bothered me and I never heard her talk about it once when she was involved with me. And if she wasn't comfortable with the age difference why did she pursue a relationship with me for almost a year. We were also in a long distance relationship. I was planning to move near her in the spring like we planned but in the end she found this guy that lived closer to her. She met him while she was still involved with me and it hurts knowing that she left me just like that. And it hurts even more knowing that she can shut out all feelings for me so quickly like I never existed. I've always wanted her even when she was with me, I would've been extremely happy if I married her one day. And would give anything to be with her forever. How long should I leave her alone for?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (13 November 2010):
I think you need to accept that things are over, try having no contact again but accept that it is over and you need to move on, get out with your friends get it all out of your system and dont contact her, just remember you broke up for a reason and try and remember that and look for someone that is more suited to you. Heart break is never easy but we all get over it eventually. goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Sounds like a re-bound to me. Don't try and break her and this new guy up because that's not fair on him. What were the reasons for the break up in the first place? The problems you had won't just dissapear if you get back togather. Maybe you only want her because she's found somebody else. In any case leave her be for now, if she decides to break up with the guy then maybe think about persuing her but in the mean time don't wait around for her.
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