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writes: im with my boyf..and this guy i am going to write about is with a girl too. thing is, im happy with my boyf, and the other guy is tottally happy with his chick. me and 'the guy' have been friends for a really long time now. at first he was my boyf's mate, bu i can safley say me and the other guy developed a really strong friendship. the thing with 'other guy' is that, ive always been there for him, im willing to let go of everything for him. for a while ive known that ive felt sumit more for him than friendship, ive tried speakin to him about it (in code)..i guess its dumb really, its just that, now he has his new chick, hes being so arrogant..like he always says things like 'shes better than u at so n so'..he'll find a way of putting me down. it hurts me because we have been mates for ages. At one point, when we met, he did mention he liked me..but we were so young then..you know what i mean? its so silly, i dont even want anything to happen, but why is he ruining our friendship? (his new chick hates my guts by the way, even tho i made such a big effort to get on with her) ..sum1 give me sum advice on why im feeling dis way? and what is it hes trying to achieve? because not only is it upsetting me buy i really feel that i cant be mates with him if he carries on being so daft..thank you x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): at the moment he is really not acting how a friend should, he probably knows and has picked up the signals that you like him *more* than a mate and it gives him the opportunity to play with your emotions, a real friend would not take advantage of this opportunity he is basically trying to make you jealous and along with that make you feel small. I would get shot of a *friend* like that, you don't deserve to be upset by him, think about how different your bf acts towards you(if he does)and if this is how this guy treats his friends he's not realli worth the time and effort.
On the other hand he might just see it as a joke(a dumb 1 lol) but guys seem to get stupid and arrogant sumtimes, they think they can walk all over us it's in their nature or sumthin lol. I suggest you stiff him, ignore him when he acts like this, maybe you could even play him at his own game just for the pleasure but i wouldnt really be bothered with a guy like that anyway. Don't worry about it, as long as you maintain your confidence and dignity it'll all sort itself out in the end xx:)
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