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writes:What do i do? i have been with this guy on and off for about three or more years I'm only seventeen years old and I think I am already developing depression. The boy i have been with constantly ignores me and treats me like crap but in my head i always find reasons to ignore it. We have tried many times to break up, but we always come back to each other.. my whole family loves him so its really hard to break up with them even my grandpa has a nicname for him.. i don't know what to do. We fight nonstop he is always ditching me for his friends and when he does come over he can only stay for an hour!I do so much for him and it just seems like he never appreciates me! i want someone to love and care about me but every guy i date isnt him and its just so hard i dont know what i should do Heeeeelp meeee! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Emotionally, you're not comparing this guy to another guy who might be better. Your heart is only experiencing a switching off between having a painful guy or having a painful breakup.
Your heart isn't getting a chance to exeperience being single again. Not for long enough to get over the immediate breakup pain and actually start to adjust to it.
And more so, you need to spend enough time with another guy to see if you'll start having feelings for him.
You probably wouldn't be so crazy about your current BF in the first place if you dated him for the first time today and got treated like you do now. It took tons of time with him to build up this link that you're having such a hard time trying to break now.
So when it comes to other guys, you have to give it some time & energy investment to even have a chance. You're not gonna spend two hours with some other guy and immediately start to feel close to that person like you do with this BF. It takes some effort, and some willingness to live single for a while.
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reader, no_issues +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Fortunately there are two easy steps out of your predicament:
1) Date another boy
2) If you're not over the guy in question yet, repeat Step 1
If your family gives you crap about not dating the guy anymore, tell them that they can date him instead if they want.
From watching porn it's clear that the world is full of men ready to do whatever it takes to make a woman happy. (Porn also tells us that if your manager at work catches you having sex in the back room, he will want to join in -- this may not always be true.)
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