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writes:When I was on facebook I was doing a random search of people in my city and I saw a face i recognised. So I click on the profile and realised it was this guy who comes into my work all the time. He works right next door to me (we both work in retail part-time). Whenever he comes in he always seems so happy and gives me alot of eye contact and smiles lots. He always tries really hard to make conversation with me while i serve him. He seems like hes a very genuine nice person. So I guess you could say I have a little crush on him. I have seen him a few times around my local shops as well and he has smiled at me and said hello but we both keep working- i do that because im to shy to stop and keep talking. anyway, so i want to add him on facebook, to hopefuly get to know him. but i dont want him to think im some weirdo stalker. so do you think it would be weird if i added him? what do i say?
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reader, jamilian monster  +, writes (19 November 2011):
i had that prob like a day ago and i just added him. now we moved up from not friends to bf!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): Hey,
I have a similar story. I liked this guy ever since sophomore year of my college, and one of my friends introduced me to him, but I knew him from before. I have met him here and there, but don't know much about him. I have the same worry that if I add him on facebook, he might think I am stalking him. But I guess, after reading all the posts here, I might reconsider and add him.
Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): I had the same situation a few months ago. This guys job puts him at my job occasionally and we would always smile at each other and stuff. One day I got his name off a paper he left behind and I found him on MySpace and after debating it a while I finally requested him and he sent me a message asking me out. If he's interested too, he's not gonna find it creepy. I know I'm extemely happy I made my move..
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reader, petina1  +, writes (30 November 2008):
 Just add him as a friend, thats what the application is there for. He needs to 'confirm' that you are a friend. You will find out one way or the other if you are doing the right thing by his reaction to that. Or you could find out who 'his friends' are and then if you know any of them, be 'their friend' first and then theres a link for him. If you can't get in the front door, go in the back, thats what i say. good luck. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): Just a little story here: I had this same worry not long ago. there was a guy I liked (but only spoke to in "passing" very similar to this situation here). I stumbled across him on facebook via a mutual friend (OK so I guessed this person might know him and leafed through her friends list!) but, like you, I was wary of adding him in case it looked like I was stalking him. So I kept putting it off (even got as far as almost pressing the "add" button a few times) - then after about three weeks of these shenanigans, I opened my inbox to find a friend request from him!So anyway - I tell this story mainly to illustrate that he could well be thinking the same things about you. One of you has to take the first step so why not take the plunge?A facebook add is a fairly safe first step to be honest - I have quite a few people (male and female) on mine who I wouldn't say I'm either close to, or likely to be romantically involved with - we're just aquantances who may have a chat now and then - so it needn't be hugely obvious that you're romantically interested just because you added him. But it is a good way of reading his info and finding out things like whether he's got a girlfriend without having to ask him!
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