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writes:He was in school with me he had a crush on me. We both had to sit upfront together I was with Linda (learning support) and he always bragged that I always wanted to sit by him. I told the teacher about this so she had a word with him. I was just friends with him. He sent me valintine gifts every year and he would always ask if I would give him one back so I did - I didn't want to I just felt bad if I didn't give him on back. We both got picked to do the jewish wedding play, and I can remember him starting to spread rumers that I always want to sit by him in class (when i wanted to sit upront by Linda and that I wanted to marry him, When I was going out with Joshua Davies. Then I asked Linda if it was ok ifI sat somewhere else, he didn't like it and started pushing me around. I was sick of him doing it so I befriended him. He left me alone for a bit then untill I started college. We spock to each other on msnand he asked me if you would show my boobs to him on cam, I told him no. Then the next day in college one of my friends asked me if I showed my boobs to him and that he was spreading rumers that I did. I just ignored him. I always try and avoid him in college he comes up and sits by me sometimes or hes already there waiting for me and he comments on my boobs all of the time. It makes me feel uncomftable and i've been a bit of a coward to tell him to go away or tell someone just in case he will start rumers or try and get me into trouble. How do I deal with him
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reader, Nay_ox +, writes (24 August 2011):
Nay_ox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers! I'll see how things go when I start back September. and I'll get back to you if anything goes on. I will probably let my college tutor know whats been going on so they are aware of it aswell.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 August 2011):
 Tell it to his face that he needs to leave you alone. If he tries to start anything after that then you go tell your college counselor about the harassment. If things escalate you can take it to the police, but wait and see if he reacts to your warning and then contact the college counselor. You could alternatively ask your parents for advice on whether to go directly to the police or not, dependent on his reactions. But you'll stand a better chance with the police if it can be documented that you complained about this to the college first.
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reader, Nay_ox +, writes (23 August 2011):
Nay_ox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, should I go back to my school and show this to my teachers for witnesses, Tell them whats been going on in college and get the police involved too?because he really creeps me out and hasn't really left me alone. Or should I speak to my college counsler about this? I would just talk to him normal but always been to coward to tell him to back off just in case he starts anything on me. Or should I ignore him when I go back and see what he does?
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (23 August 2011):
show him up, stand up to him and tell him where to go
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reader, chigirl +, writes (23 August 2011):
Don't be a coward. Stand up to him. If he spreads rumours you know they aren't true, and people who believe in rumours are stupid people. You're in college now, you're a big girl, don't let him bully you (which is essentially what he is doing). Be brave and tell it right to his face "Stop bothering me. I don't like you, I never have, and if you do not stop harassing me I will talk to a teacher about you. Leave me alone.".
It's sexual harassment if he continually comments on your breasts. You can file a complaint, he might be forced to quite the college he is at in worst case scenario (best case for you, worst for him).
Write down when he's said something inappropriate, and what he said. So if you have to take it to a teacher you will have it in writing what he's said and how often it occurs.
If he sits next to you tell him to leave. That he is unwelcome next to you. Or place your bag on the seat next to you. Or stand up and leave yourself and sit somewhere else. He is bullying you. If he doesn't stop contact a teacher again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): It says "please don't use people's real names on here".Be careful.
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