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female
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30-35,
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writes:I need help on choosing between two guys. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 21 and lives a state away. We met over the summer and had an instant connection. Over Thanksgiving break he came to visit me, and we had sex six times. He even gave me a $500 engagement ring, as a promise ring. I would do anything to go back and relive those three days. Then I got involved with bowling through my school, and I met another guy. I had no intention of making him my boyfriend, until he admitted to liking me. Being the sneaky little bitch that I was, I thought, I can have two.. they won't find out about each other. Well they did. I took my new boyfriends virginity on his 18th birthday and since he and I have been dating he tells me every day how much he loves/needs me. I confessed to them both that I had cheated on each. The 21 year old of course was mad, we had been dating seven months. He called me a little slut and that he hated me. Two hours later he apologized and told me I had one more chance. The 18 year old is telling me he would never make me cry like the other did and that he would give me an unlimited amounts of chances, and I believe him because he has. They both want me to get rid of the other. I want them both, but I'm slightly leaning more towards the 21 year old. Advice please! Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Let's see..
21 year old: Lives a state away, called you a slut, and said he hated you. Then he changes his mind in 2 hours and wants you to choose him. He has given you a cheap engagement ring, yet an expensive promise ring. Just curious as to what a 21 year old wants with a 16 year old? He can't take you to clubs or bars, and you can't legally drink. Plus, this is an LDR that you can't seem to handle. Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated.
18 year old: You took his virginity thus he's going to be attached to you, hence the unlimited chances he's offering you. It's possible he knows how to treat a girl.
I say choose the 21 year old since you're leaning more towards him anyways. Also, it's fair of you to give back the promise ring seeing as you broke your end of the promise.
Hope you've learned your lesson that you can't have your cake and eat it too.
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