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writes:Hello CupidI'm dating a girl since 5 weeks at local college and it's going on nicely ! We seem to connect and things are lovely :)I'm a senior so I have classes at different time than her. So when I'm free and so is she, we hang out! However, one of her friend just goes livid and sneer when I come around to 'take her away from the group'. It's getting really awkward as she tries to push her away from me by acting really weird. She'll either stomp off or she'll not leave my girl side! My girl is too nice so she'll ask me to excuse her or something to talk to her! I can't ask my girl to be change who she is !I suggested we could hang out once daily when we are free and she can give rest of time to her friends. The plan doesn't seem to work ! I'll be taking to my girl and she'll come out from nowhere and force my girl to go with her! We both want to spend more time together but her friend is making a real big fuss! She told me she can't offend her always so we aren't still sure what to do.I live really far away from her so meeting any other time is very difficult as we both are really busy with our lives. What do you suggest ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2014): Your gfs friend is a jealous, a little controllng and very immature, how old is she 14? yr gf is not going to dump her and never speak to her again, shes an insecure jealous person.
Yr gf is not hers to have all to herself.. seriously she needs to get over it,& grow up.
Ppl have r/ships and may not always be around 24/7 for their friends.
She sounds like she needs to get more of a life and let yr gf spend time with you also rather than act like a 14 yr old having a tantrum. Agree with the other poster in that the friend needs to have her own life also..
Yr gf of course needs to spend time with her friends, away from you, we all need this. It may help for her to talk to this jealous girl, and reassure her and let her know that she values her f/ship, and of course wants to spend time with her.. but that she also has a bf and needs to spend time with him alone, & by acting like she does she is making both her and you her bf uncomfortable. There are times when she needs to be with just her friends and not you. Maybe she can arrange to send time separately with you if this girl is so controlling & jealous, I wouldn't want to be around her if I were you anyway,the friend needs to calm down and get used to you.
jealousy only drives ppl away, the friend needs to know this, there is a fine line between being protective
& looking out for yr friends and being controlling and jealous.
and bing jelaous and controlling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2014): It says your age is 22-25, I wonder if this girl is younger?Her friend is acting like a stroppy, jealous teenager. If she is close to your age then she needs to tell her friend that she's serious about you but can't get to know you better while she is interrupting and demanding her attention. If she has specifically planned a time and place to meet you then her friend should respect that and entertain herself. If she had an appointment her friend wouldnt go tagging along (I hope!).Or agree to meet and then leave campus and go somewhere else. Ignore your phones etc... Until you've had your together time then her friend can meet up.She is probably worried her friend will drop her completely for you, maybe your gf in the past has met a guy and never left his side so her friend is just trying to stop this happening. Tricky but her friend needs to let her live her life, and your gf needs to make sure she puts herself first sometimes.
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