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writes:Well i guess i'm writing here for advice on how to get over someone i haven't even been out with...I've been good friends with a guy i work with for nearly 3 years...i'd always assumed we were friends but recently through one reason or another i have questioned the nature of our friendship (on my part). I have had hints that he has feelings for me, but to be honest we haven't got the chance to talk about anything in depth like that. Now the issue lies that we lead completely different lives, he is settled in his job and i'm a university student.... I want to believe it would work but i don't want to ruin anything that we have now. I can't stop thinking about him, and it's driving me crazy...because he doesn't have a clue, i don't want to bring it up because it's complicated.Basically has anyone got any advice on how to get over him...without ruining our friendship. thanksx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): Hello
I was in exactly the same situation as you, in fact I kind of still am. I know you probably don't want to hear this but I would just tell him, I did. I was working with a guy who I had a massive crush on but we were also best friends. Then one night he kissed me and I felt like I had won the lottery. Problem was he had a girlfriend. Then it happened again a few months later and I ended up confessing my feelings for him. I was so scared to say anything as I didn't want to ruin our friendship as the thought of loosing him and not hanging out with him anymore really upset me. i decided to tell him though as much as I didn't want to spoil things it was torture at the same time. In the end we had a long chat and decided to remain friends. Mainly to do with timing etc i know if things were different we would be together. The point is although I risked changing things forever when I told him I felt like a massive weight had been lifted. We are still really good friends now though and if this guy is a decent bloke you will be too even if his response isn't want you want it to be. Good luck
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reader, quacks +, writes (17 August 2008):
 This might sound a little harsh and i dont mean it to be but you really are in the best place (University) to get over someone. Its not easy to begin with but you need to start seeing less and less of him and start joing new things at Uni and getting involved with new people there. It's an exciting time for you adn you need to throw yourself in and get involved. Little by little the old life will pass and the new (more exciting) life will take over and before you know where you are you wont be thinking of him anymore because you will either have found someone else or because you are having too much fun. This way you never have to fall out of being friends but instead become friends because believe me if you feel this strongly about someone they are not friends but a menace to your mental health.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (17 August 2008):
 The best way to get over someone is to not see them for a while...Out of sight, out of mind. This might be hard as you want to maintain the friendship...Just try to give yourself some space from him.
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