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writes:Should I just take the easy wait out or wait?Alright so I'm 17 and I'm still a virgin, I know being a virgin at 17 isn't all that uncommon, but I haven't even gotten past makingout and groping.Now I've been with my fair share of girls, but it's almost never more than a spur of the moment hook-up, and ven then there is usually others around too so we can't get any privacy.I don't want to graduate high school not only a virgin but a guy whos never even been to 3rd base.I'm not sure why I can't get far with a girl, I'm no George Clooney but from the looks of a few of the girls I've seen I wouldn't say I'm bad looking. I have a kind of hard time being serious with a girl though, vocally anyways, I usually just flirt and joke around.Anyways I'm wondering if I should just sneak into a bar with some friends and try to pick up a cougar or get a hooker. Saying that makes mesound like a total dirtbag I know, but I'm just sick of missing out and want to have some expreience under my belt for when I do find a good girl.I needome advice, thanks.
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reader, LadyKeylon  +, writes (25 August 2007):
If it is a good girl you want then a good girl is worth waiting for...when it is right it will happen, why settle for meaningless sex when you can make love for the first time with somebody special? The only true competition as it were is in your mind. Give yourself some slack, let life happen, enjoy your youth...you have the rest of your life to worry about getting laid!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): I'm 17 also but started having sex when I turned 15.
I don't regret having sex with my boyfriend [who I'm still with]. But if I hadn't of gone out with him I'd still be a virgin and I WOULDN'T be ashamed of it. I'd just wait for the right man to come - I wouldn't want someone who had sex with a hooker because they wanted sex so badly!
Who cares about experience? Sure I have ALOT more experience now because I've been having sex for over 2 years but the sex has only gotten better. Having sex once with a hooker won't make you any more experienced and it's nice to have sex with someone you love and care about. When you find the right girl who you want to have sex with and experiment with will make sex MUCH better than with a hooker.
Personally I would never want to have sex with someone I didn't care about or love. And the hooker doesn't care about you she just wants the money. I know you probably don't want to go to the hooker or why would you write in here? Please be patient it will be work it.
Also having sex with a hooker isn't safe if she's just someone you picked up off the street how do you know she hasn't got an STD? Even if you use a condom theres a chance it may split and you could possibly be stuck with her STD till you realise you have it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I would rather lose it to someone I actually care about it would make the experience alot better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): I think you should wait. I'm 17 and I'm a virgin and I've never got past making out and groping either. Look at it this way- if girls will make out with you then at some point a girl will have sex with you. It will just happen, on it's own, at the right time and with the right person (if you don't rush it and have sex with the first girl that comes along). Virginity isn't something you should be in a hurry to get rid of; you've got as long as you need to lose it and you will only lose it once so whats the hurry? No matter what guys your age will say there are far more virgins out there our age than care to admit it. And TRUST me a hooker is NOT the way you want to lose it. Do you really want to look back on your first time having sex and see it being with some dirty hooker just because you were desperate and not someone special that you loved and they loved you back? I know it feels like you are missing out but just because you aren't doing anything now doesn't mean you won't have the whole of your adult life to do whatever you please. Just wait, the right person and the right opportunity will come up and you will be glad you waited and you won't regret a single thing. I hope I helped xxx
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