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writes:I recently posted a question about being in love with my teacher. I don't need anybody to tell me that it isn't love because I have never felt like this with any male before. Friends are telling me that they can see chemistry with us both, they way he acts around me is different to how he acts around others, my friends don't know that I have feelings for him though. It really is killing me, my bestfriend is the only person that knows. Today I broke up for Easter and I knew that I won't be seeing him for two weeks, when I came out of his lesson today, I don't know what it was but I nearly cried my eyes out and I felt like running back to tell him how I felt. My best friend is VERY sensible and intellegent in this situation and she said that for the past 7 years that I have known her, she has never seen me look as distraught as I did today. I'm not sure if he is leaving soon but I want/need to tell him before I leave which is in around a month and a bit. I admit that I have cried about him a few times and I only told my best friend about it today, she thinks that I should tell him to get it off my chest. Theres part of me telling me to just keep my feelings in but another part of me says that I should tell him because it really is killing me. I honestly cannot explain, I believe that nobody would ever understand. Im 16 and I think he is 24. Should I tell him when I go back to school or should I wait until my prom?.. which is after when I have left (but there is a possibility that he will not be there). Please, please help me. I know that nothing will become of it but I just want to tell him that I love him and that I will not act on it, I just wanted to let my feelings out. Believe me when I say that I wish this wasn't happening to me, I know I only have myself to blame. I am CONSTANTLY thinking about him, all day, every day, before I go to bed, I've had a few dreams about him and I find myself thinking of him when I wake up. I don't know what to do, I feel empty and numb.
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (10 April 2011):
I do understand how you feel as i still feel the same way 13yrs on and cant move on no matter how hard i try i used to be distraught leaving him after a day and not seeing him for night or weekend it was hell its now been 13yrs since i seen him and it is still as bad and painful he my life. Dont tell him as he will only reject you and you will feel a hundred times worse i never told my teacher either. And just dont let it get as bad as me cos its no fun and is agony. Talk to someone i bottled up my feelings have only in past year started talking about them on here. Pm me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): OK, usually i wouldn't answer but here's how a 24 guy, who will probably be a teacher, sees things.- There's a 99% chance of him rejecting your advances. Keep that in mind. Him being friendly is just part of the job.- That remaining 1% will turn into zero if you approach him while you're still a student.- Having said that i must admit that i have seen couples that were previously in a teacher-student or boss-subordinate relationship. Yes, people will and do gossip.
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reader, Littlescorpio  +, writes (9 April 2011):
hi there!I know it seems like there's no one out there that could possibly understand your situation, but there are. Millions of people, going through the exact same thing as you.My advice is- don't tell him how you feel. I'd say wait until you've left, until prom. I know it's hard, because he might not be going. I suppose you could ask him if he's attending because it would be good to see him again. And then you'd have something to look forward to I suppose.But in my experience...it's not always the best to tell them of your feelings. He might feel the same, he might not. you could likely get hurt from his answer. I'm not going to tell you about the laws and the ' forbidden' thing. Because I don't think within society today it matters as much as it used to. In the end, you are going to do what you want to do. And I mean, do what feels right to you-what you know is right. No one can truly tell you what to do, we just provide advice. So just keep in mind that although you might be getting something off your chest you could get hurt deeply. He might not feel the same and would likely have to report the situation. On the up side- if you don't tell him, you can probably still stay in touch by email, continue being friends and then maybe you can tell him later once you've thought about it more..Hope this helps-Goodluck!
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