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writes:my wife has left me and i want her back we have been going through a tough time over the last year or so but came to a head about 6 weeks ago the problem was she was helping everyone else's buisness out but neglecting her own but just won't listen. i keep trying to talk to here but she keeps bringing up what i did 10 or 15 years ago. She gets very emmotional and angry when i talk to her.approx about a week before her cycle she gets intolerable crys uncontrolably gets very down this lst for about 10 days she is 38 when i ask or suggest she goes to doctor she just says what do you think i am a freak. what can i do Reply to this Question
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reader, dj123 +, writes (4 March 2007):
dj123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answer i have tried all of these but is un willing to even try when we see each other we talk but then she just flies off the handle for no reason i asked her to see the doctor and that i would go with her she justsait what do you think i am a f****** freak. I love her and want to be with her but everyting i try and do just seems to make her resent me even more. the funny thing about all this is that all these things happened over 10 years ago whilst we were living together we have been together for almost 20 years she mrried me only 6 years ago
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): It sounds whatever happened years ago, she has a lot of resentment in her. She must be willing to let it go. It would be best to seek a counsler or this will keep going on and bring one or both of you to further hurt and resentment towards each other. Some women have more serious problems then others around their cycle. Yes, it would be best for her to seek medical advice and options. Let her know that you are concerned and would be willing to go to the doctor with her because you care about her well being. To me, doing this would show her you are concerened. When your own household becomes neglected, not sure if kids are involved, maybe suggesting if she "took over" certain responsiblities, she would see that she is behind or has not taken care of her responsibilites as she said she would. If she is neglecting you, it probably does have to do with whatever resentment is in her and I would still suggest seeing a marriage counsler. Hopefully, she will be willing. Good Luck!
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