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female
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30-35,
*unni
writes:Hi, I'm just writing this because I need help with my husband. Okay, whenever I tell him hey lets go to the park, he says no cause he's tired. Also when I tell him I need shoes he tells me that he doesn't have money and I'm tired of him saying I dont have money. The other whenever he brings his little girl now, he tells me hey you wanna go out. He tells me oh I got paid lets go buy shoes for my daughter and after that lets go to the park. I hate it because whenever I just want to go out with me he doesn't want. To only when his daughter is here and I want my own space with him to what should I do?
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reader, free advice  +, writes (10 June 2011):
Hi Bunni:It does not sound like your husband is deliberately avoiding you. He would really be having financial crisis as well as he might be actually tired to go out after his day's work and off mood due to pressures. But to a kid, one can never say no as they are too young to understand things. Especially fathers have soft corners to daughters and mothers to sons. Grown ups can understand situations, but if denied to kids, it is likely to hurt their feeling faster that adults does. So, even if he is tired or even he has a hard time earning, he would somehow manages to handle the demands of his daughter. This does not mean that he does not love you. I am sure, things will get back to normal if his financial position improves. You could give moral support for him on making a better earning or you could also try to earn yourself to make things easier. Threatening him like you would go out on you own or someone else will make things worse. He will be very upset because you did not try to understand his helpless situation.You have your space, but a bit congested. I wish you will get relieved soon and get the happiness back. Please bear with him until things get back on track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): you married to young and now your starting to realise marriage is not all rosy your husband sounds like he needed a wife so that his ex would let him have his daughter. why should you ask for things if you want them get them if you want to go out and his says "no" reply with "OK i go on my own or with a friend that wants my company" he'll soon get of his backside.
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