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writes:i have an issue, with my mom.We use to be the best of friends, but recently, shes been drinking- a lot.i tried to talk to her about it, but we just end up fighting i love her so much and i'm scared that her alcohol problem is getting out of hand, i really don't know what to do, its come to the point where, even if i ask her why shes drinking at 10am she gets so angry starts slamming doors, all i know is i want my best friend back and i don't know how to help her, she doesn't want any help, she doesn't think she has a problem i end up crying all the time , because she yells at me and hits me when she drinks, i don't know what to do .how should i go about helping her?or do i not help her and let her come to realize that she needs help?thanks for any advicexxxxo!
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reader, hscheer2012  +, writes (15 June 2010):
I had the same exact problem minus the hitting. my mom died 2 years ago, she was hit by a car and i'm sure she was drunk at the time, i always think if i would have tried talking to her about it maybe she wouldn't have been drunk that night and she wouldn't have gotten hit, but i could play the "what if" game all time but it wouldn't change what happend.. you need to tell her how it's affecting you and her and your relationship, idc if you have to threaten her with moving out or calling a center for her to get help. you need to try and do something!
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Check out this organization:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Alateen is run with exactly you in mind. Whatever is going on with your Mom is not about you. She may not know herself why she's doing it, or more to the point she can't be honest with herself. That breeds denial, and the defensiveness that you've experienced.
Alateen can give you better strategies than us internet strangers. Talk to them -- they can help.
Hang in there -- it's wonderful that you care so much that you're asking for help. Good luck!
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reader, ChloeeJaiiX  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 im 13 and i been through alot of problems im in care because my dad has anger issues and a very bad drinking problem and my mum is mentally ill and i have not seen my dad in round about 10 years and miss him alot wee sort of keep in touch though because im in care with my nanna and grandad. soo what ever you doo do not get social servics involved they will make you alot more unhappy just try and tell her nicely and if it dusent work count to ten and take deep breaths and walk away dont cry it will wind you up more talk to someone like a friend about it xx
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reader, Sloachi95 +, writes (14 June 2010):
I understand what you're feeling. Completely, ya see my mom is a drug addict, every minute of every hour of every day she is high on something, she was completely oblivious to what I tried to help her with and she never tries to understand what I was feelling she dosent even own up to the fact that she has a serious problem, what I suggest you do coming straight from someone who dealt with what you're dealing you know offer her as much as you can, but in the end you're mom is her own person if she ignores your tries you must bring this issue to someone of higher authority, then you must concentrate on yourself because, you own you, don't let you're mother put you down, love her as much as she needs it, but do what's best for you because in the end you doing well is what's best for the both of you
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