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writes: Hi there, I need some advice on my sexuality. I am 16 and have been best mates with someone for over 4 years. Recently, he has become interested in girls and has started going out with a few. I am glad for him and support him, as well as liking girls myself too. However, I also feel really jealous towards the girls who are with him. I still like girls, but I'm also attracted to him and feel violated when he talks about them. How can I tell him my feelings without ruining our friendship?
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reader, sam12345 +, writes (12 July 2006):
you are either bisexual or are confusing feelings of jelousy over his attention or him as he is your best m8 with feelings of attraction. You may fancy him or maybe it is just you are feeling rather left out as he is with these girls rather than you. just make sure of exactly how it is you feel b4 acting on any of your feelings.
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reader, Natalie-x +, writes (9 July 2006):
 Hmmm...you may be bisexual, or maybe you just feel jelous that your friend has found other people to spend his time with. You should let him know you're always there for him and ask him not to forget you're still his best mate even though he has a girlfriend, and he cant blank you out of the picture.
Do you feel this way about other guys? Do you like girls more? I think you just need to spend more time with your mate and try to get things to go back to normal, and see if these feelings go away. Good luck!
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reader, leannelle +, writes (2 July 2006):
 I'm sure there will be others on here who can give you a more experienced view, but my own advice would be that you are jealous of the time they get to spend with him. He has been your best mate for 4 years and has shared his time, opinions and ideas with you. Now he is starting to share them with other people and this would affect anyone, and we all go through similar events in our lives. It's a confusing time, and I don't think you should jump to conclusions either way about your sexual feelings. It sounds like a natural reaction to me, and although it may prove painful for a while, I'm sure you'll see things clearer when you start to have more of your own relationships.
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reader, x.BrokenxHearts.x  +, writes (2 July 2006):
 I think you aren't confused about your sexuality its just that when he is with these girls he spends less time with you which is obviously going to make you feel left out. My boyfriend felt the same when his best mate got a girlfriend he spent less time with him and it was weird because they were always together so just tell him hun and good luck. xxxx
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