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writes:i just can't get over my ex. we went out for about a year. he broke up with me right before Christmas, which really sucked. anyways its been 4 months since the breakup and i think about him every day. instead of cutting off all contacts i made sure to answer the phone when he called or answer his texts...why did i do that? i was basically doing anything and everything just in case he wanted me back. i have fallen into a deep depression. he did call me a lot and even asked me out for drinks so i thought he was thinking twice about breaking up with me. lately the calls have died down and it upsets me. i feel so pathedic. i use to look at his new girlfriends facebook page, but i stopped because i got so upset when she would post something about them. i got real upset when he put a picture of him and her as his profile picture. it was like a slap in the face because he NEVER posted a pic of us while we were dating. i can't stop thinking about him and i pray everyday that he will one day get back together with me. i know its wishful thinking, but i WANT HIM BACK. i'm sick of crying all the time and being down, its such a bad feeling. HELP!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank everyone for your help. i know everyone says you will get over him in time, but the time is taking too long..lol! and also i think my friends are sick of me talking about him. i wanted to be the couple that breaksup but then he wants me back and things are even better, but i guess i'm just over my head with that idea. its true, if he wanted me back he would have done it all ready. i hate waking up knowing the rest of my day is going to be depressing. i want to wake up happy and cheerful. i really wish he knew what he put me through.
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reader, hhkkjj +, writes (5 May 2010):
I have def. been there i dated my ex for four years and i was very very in love with him. Our relationship wasnt the best i think back now and see how awful it really was. it has been 4 years since i broke it off with him (very unwillingly) and it is so much easier now. we had a lot of stuff shared together even things he doesnt no about and things he will never no about (though he prob should i will never tell him) things that i had to deal with myself. Very Complicated and sad. I started dating a guy right after we broke up (we broke up because he would not stop accusing me of cheating he would get ono porn sights and say that he saw pics of me on there and he knew i would never do that i would never have cheated on him) even though i didnt want to my family pushed me into it and we started as friends and eventually lead to dating even though i was still in love with my ex and that is the only thing that kept me sane, it took me a long time to get over my ex though. I now have a daughter with the guy i started dating right after my ex which i am currently engaged to. I still think about him almost every day but mostly i am pissed that i spent so much time on him. I recently found out that he was sleeping with 3 other girls while he was calling me begging me back (right after we broke up) Our relationship was doomed anyway no matter how much we loved each other it was very complicated and i didnt even touch all our problems. But what i am saying with all this is eventually it will get better hang in there and even though you dont want to get out do things with friends!! And i no how hard it is but cut off all contact with him dont look at pics of him no contact makes it easier in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Girl i know EXACTLY how you feel!I've been there. Same thing happened to me. I was the one who broke up with my boyfriend, a long time ago, after being in a relationship for a year!! then he got a new girlfreind, and same story he got rlly public on facebook ( profile pics, statuses... things that didnt exist when we went out).I kept crushing on him, and wanting him back for like another year!I thought that his going out with that girl is to make me jealous!Every thing he did, i'd think that it's a sighn of him wanting me back! I felt so jealous, pissed and hurt everytime i saw him with that girl! Throughout my year of wanting him back, we were still talking to each other and hanging out, but slowly our relationship faded away!! for sometime we stopped seeing each other. Then i got some growing up to do. With the help of some friends,i tried to get the idea that it's kind of love from one side, and that he really cares about his girlfriend and love her! they tried to open my eyes and show me that he just thinks of me as a friend. Then our relationship was slowly comming back. We became kind of good friends!
However, I learned that he wasn't worthy of me! And if we were supposed to get back together it would have happened right after we broke up. The more time passes the more you'll get over him! Just ACCEPT the idea that you broke up. Get ou there and start mingling with people. Trust me You'll find someone more worthy of you and your time. Just have confidence and be Patient! Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Being the LEFT party is never easy especially when you loved the man so much. You need to do yourself a favour... face the break-up ...accept that pain is normal and allow yourself to cry. But at the same time...GET OUT THERE.. You may not feel like it but get up, get dressed and GO OUT. Movies, Clubs, Drives, holiday, friends... drinks... garden ETC keep busy...Fill your life sooo much that you will not have time to sit around moping. Soon you will notice his absence less and less and you will start to have fun again. Its not easy so be patient with yourself but also help the process... don't let the whole thing get you down. Good luck xx
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