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writes:Hi,I just met an ex after 6 mos..i surprised her at work..she's 27, i'm 39..we had a good but tough relationship...she was going to a concert, but asked me to walk with her to her friends apartment she was housesitting for. We clicked again, it felt great to see her eye to eye...we talked easily, and i went into the apartment to use the restroom, she changed her shirt in front of me...we went out, and she had to go to the subway(tube)..I asked her if she had anyone special, and she said she was seeing someone, in fact, the same fellow she dated briefly 2 years back when we split up before...i asked her how long and she said "not long" and i asked her if she was happy and she looked a bit sad and said "yeah, as best i can be" and we walked and i told her i had been seeing someone..she said for how long? i said 2 mos. and she asked how it was going..i said she was more into me than i her...i said, there's only one J, and she said, there's only one P (our names)...she said we had some good times...i said, yeah, i never had as much fun with someone as her...she said it was to bad how if got started odd, (i was engaged at the time) and i said, yeah, if i could undo it, i would. she then said, well, you learn from the past and don't make the mistakes in the future i guess...so we stopped at the subway entrance, and she reached out to fix my hair, and we hugged a long time...she said, I'll let you know how the concert went!! and then i left....so, she once loved me deeper than anyone, and i don't belive she loves this new fellow in anyway as close as me...and she said it was nice with a big smile that i came to visit her...what do you think? is she happy to see me? the concert she is going to is a band i introduced her to, and she's going with the new guy...perfect timing!! i want her back, bad..does it sound like it went well? any thoughts i'd appreciate!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): Leave her alone. Do not interfere in her relationship and her life. Because doing just that, would be the most individualistic, selfish act, you could do to someone, that you claim to admire and still care about. When we care about someone, we are generous, we are happy for them and their new circumstances and we want that individual to thrive. She told you she was happy but as 'best as she can' be. It doesn't matter how happy or unhappy she is. This is her life and this is where she has chosen to be. You made a connection with her,...now let her contact you if she wants to pursue it but don't interfere in her relationship again....plain and simple.
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