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writes:Dear, Cupid.Me and my significant other have been together for almost two years now. And for the past 10 months, we have been having some problems. He just doesn't seem intrested in sex with me anymore. It all first started, when he got a laptop. He had an older one, but he had it rigged to his tv. He stopped paying attention to me, and started paying more attention to himself and his laptop. I've caught him in countless lies about, not looking at porn. And the thing is, I don't care if he looks at porn. Thats not it at all, I just want him to pay more attention to me, I get sex once a week, sometimes once every two weeks. I come onto him, Usually on days I know he is in a good mood. Days off from work...ect. But he still turns me down. We have argued over the subject plenty of times, And all I want is for him to understand. That I don't mind if he watches porn, I just want to be paid more attention to then his laptop. Well recently we had another argument, And he has completly given up porn. Unless he is doing it when i'm alseep, he never looks at it. (I recently lost my job, so I'm home 24/7) I know he isn't cheating on me, and he is so romantic all the time. Like looking into my eyes, cuddling with me everynight. And i love it, but im still wondering were the sex life for us has gone. Its been two weeks sense he has given up porn, despite me saying that I still once again do not care if he looks at, I just want to be chosen over porn for once. I'm sure he is still having a little fun when he takes a shower. and again I don't mind, I just want the attention I yern for. I'm afraid to bring it up again, becaues our relationship is on edge. I love him so much, and I know he loves me too. Our relationship is perfect, besides the sex life. If i didn't care i would have left months ago. I want to work things out. Tell me what I can do please?
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (12 May 2012):
When the two of you argue, what does he say are his reasons for not wanting to do it?
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (12 May 2012):
 problem is this. you are at home 24/7 and he has no man space. we all need it. start an evening course one or two nights a week and go out during the day doing something that you like. just gives him the idea that home is not 100% you. no offence intended, its just that men like to think they have some space. he still loves you and always will I expect but he needs to know he can be on his own. read into that what you like but guys need some alone space. I bet once he thinks you aren't going to be in the house every time he gets home he will start getting sexual again.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2012):
 Instead of having countless arguments with him about it, just sit down with him calmly and tell him that although you know he loves you, you feel neglected and you want to know what the reason is he does not want to have sex with you any more. Make him see how much this upsets you and gets you down. Ask him is there anything you can do to improve your sex life. I think you both just need to open up about this.
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