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anonymous
writes:Hey, I've been apart from my man for 2 months now, and it's only a couple weeks till he returns, yet i'm becoming more anxious and insecure everyday. He calls me almost every night to say a quick love you and night, but won't reply to any email or text I send him. I feel hurt by this, but feel like I can't complain because he calls me and I should be grateful? I love him and want it to work, i'm just not feeling like eh's putting in any effort to love me while he is away? Am I over reacting? I would love so much for him to send me flowers, or a letter - or be romantic in anyway, am I high maintenance to want that? How do you make a long distance relationship fun and loving? Especially when someone doesn't make effort?Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey,
thanks for putting it into perspective.I think i realise that people communicate differently, and while texting and emails are what comes naturally for me, he far prefers the phone. It may seem rude when he doesn't reply, but i think in his mind talking about it later on makes other communication void.
It's not long now, long distance is just hard. Love to anyone going through it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Have you told him any of this? Because I think if he knew how badly it's affecting you, he might be more willing to put in more effort...But granted, it's already very good that he's calling you every night. Maybe he's just bad at writing or texting... I know I am. I'm much more likely to call somebody on the phone than texting them, and as for e-mails, I can sometimes take months to reply to even a single one, if I do it at all...I'm not saying that's good, I'm just saying that it may not be personal.Long-distance relationships are hard, and if you want it to survive every effort should be made, but maybe you should discuss this calmly with him to see if you can get this across.
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