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30-35,
*onimolly
writes:I have my first boyfriend, and I have taken the initiative to maintain this relationship. There is a 7 year age difference between us. He is charming and loving, but insists that I not fall in love with him and that he can’t do the same for me. We have more of a sexual relationship, and in a few years he will leave me to get married. I’m afraid of losing what I have with him. We are really happy but we don’t talk about feelings or relations. It’s awkward. I want him to fall in love with me, but it reminds him of his ex-girlfriend, so we can’t do this. We live almost 8000 km away. I’m an ugly person. I do feel lucky that someone is with me, but somehow I want more of him. What should I do to be with him more, make him happy, and keep my mind off of him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): When you enter a relationship with the many BOUNDARIES right up front especially stated by the man it's not likely to change. It's pre-boxed and very controlling. You are young and this could drag out for years wasting valuable time and further eroding your self and self worth. And he probably picks up on your lack of self-esteem as you state you are not attractive. That is all too much of non-commitment convenience as he know or believes you'll go for it. He is just trading off that he's being 'honest' with the pre-set BOUNDARIES as though that is a favor. Individuals who do this will bring up how 'honest' they were with you when you try to push forward. Find someone open to love or at least not so front loaded to tell you they absolutely will not.
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reader, MC1911  +, writes (10 March 2011):
You need to remember young lady you are are both young.Remember you are and always will be No 1
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