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writes:hi, me an my boyfriend have been 2gether for 6 months and were really happy together.then the other night he went 2 a party and the nxt day there were photos on myspace with him and another girl holding hands and their arms around eachother. thats as far as it went.weve talked about it and hes said hes so sorry and feels awful and he doesnt know why he did it and what he was thinking.so we've tried getting back to the way things were but theres still a little thing missing. i think a bit of trust has gone :(is it possible to get it back cos i am so desperate to get back to the way we were before :(thanks for the advise x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): There's no way that you can rush this. Trust isn't something you can buy at the store or talk yourself into. You can try as you might but not even you can convince yourself without blinding and entering yourself into a state of total oblivion.
If you really want to be in the relationship and keep trying, then all you can do it wait. He can't use words to make you trust him. Only a combination of words and actions. (without one, the other is meaningless),
But prehaps eventually, things will be as they were.
Goodluck
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): Dear just remember that trust is something that can be rebuilt but takes time. Things will not always be perfect but working together and having the communication can lead to something better than you had before. Having said that, dont feel pressured to have it the way it was "before" life is about moving forward and living in the past or stand still is met with resistance. Be grateful to the facts that all he did was hug and held hands, many guys would have done worse.
Good luck and just give it time :) Encourage each other.
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