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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating a girl for 2 years now. We are very much in love. It's our Senior Year in High school and we want to get married in the future. She's told me she wants my kids, and she plans to have sex with me and "wants me"!However, things may seem passionate but I don't think we are. At school we don't kiss, or even hug! During our sophomore year we would hug and kiss like crazy, junior year we would hug alot but kisses became a rarity. Now both hugs and kisses are perhaps once a week.She said she's scared of getting into trouble at school. And when we talk on the phone, it's for 30-60 mins. I go out with her maybe once a month.I've told her I want more passion in our relationship. I feel like we excel in the talking/laughing/communication department but not the more passionate loving part.as a man I want those kisses and hugs. And this whole thing about getting them once a week when before I would get em alot is not working out for me. Help plz Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): I believe that physical contact is very important to a relationship, (not sex by itself but other contact like you say hugs, kisses, cuddles, holding hands, etc.)You have been together for two years, so in the beginning there is naturally more hugging and kissing. In every relationship this dynamic will change as you get closer and the relationship gets older. But if it starts to disappear completely, I believe that is the sign of a problem. I understand her not wanting to be overly affectionate at school with kissing or hugging. That makes sense. Schools are becoming more and more vigilant about public affection and cracking down on it. My question is, does she want to hold your hand? At school, or the mall, or anywhere you may go that you walk together? But you should let her know you are feeling neglected in this area. Don't let it fester or it will cause problems later. If you are good at communicating, then this is one of those times to use that skill.
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