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writes: ok, i'm 16 and theres this guy i've liked for about 6 months. we flirt and talk a little and he's come over to my house twice. He's been burnt before in a relationship and hasn't had a girlfriend in a long time. he knows I like him. my friend asked him if he liked me and he more or less said he kinda liked me but he wasn't ready to ask anyone out and he didn't want to keep me hanging waiting on him. she told him he should tell me that himself, she wasn't gonna. so I pretend like I don't know anything and just keep smiling and waving to him in school and he acts the same way. about 3 weeks go by and I send him this flirty message to his computer in a cute way telling him he makes me hot thinking about him, but if he came over and hung out with me we could keep it nice and innocent. I was scared that he'd be freaked out, but he wrote back and said he wanted to hang out. So my question is do you think I'm finally getting to him and he might like me more? I've been trying to give him the idea that no matter how long it takes, I'm still gonna be there liking him and not give up, so maybe he will trust again. do you think that is the right thing to do? What kinds of things do you think would be fun to do when he comes over? I don't want him to be bored or think I'm boring.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (18 February 2006):
 I would like to tell you to play monopoly but I guess you would take no notice, so I suggest you keep it nice and not get to hot by hanging out but not in your room, if this is possible, if you have a room that is downstairs like a second lounge or something then you could chill and listen to music, you could play games on computer or on playstation, and if you really have only got your bedroom to go into then again keep it cool, play games like playstation or computer stuff, this way you get to see what stuff he likes and him you.
In the dark past when I was "courting" I used to go for walks and play music, even talk and laugh but my 16 year old tells me that is way not cool. He suggests a good game of playstation or the like, but he recommends you do a little cuddling (I dont agree but im "old"
what ever you do you must keep it light, you are not ready for any heavy petting and just enjoy each others company this way you have a friendship first.
If he is right for you he will not find you boring he will love your company what ever you do.
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reader, dappled-dragon +, writes (18 February 2006):
i think you should play it by ear and see how it goes he obviously likes you but i don't think it would be a good idea to pressure him. i think most males hate to be pressured and that would be the quickest way to put him off!! be yourself relax and have fun and then he will too!
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reader, minaah +, writes (18 February 2006):
he needs time thats all but dont pressure him or hell think that your smothering him just give him a bit of space and that should do it best of luck minaahx
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