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writes:I am 28 and in love with a man of 30. At times, he behaves as if he's talking to his wife but sometimes he seems distant. He had relations with a girl for 7 years before they broke up last year (6 months before he came into my life). At the same time we had sex very early (within the 1st week we met). he is very helpful and understanding but has not proposed to me for marriage yet. I fear that he might lose interest in me very soon. my question is, what do i do to make him propose to me soon? please help me. it's very urgent.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 Yours is a rebound case and beware .It is not to say that your chances are slimmer but it can also succeed.
If you are looking for love and longing for a committed relationship you probably won’t find what you desire from someone on the rebound.
If you do become involved with such a person be sure to let the relationship develop slowly and to take care of yourself emotionally.
This is a relationship that comes very quickly on the heels of another relationship ending. Rebounds are rarely based on love but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.
You need to be supportive of him and show sympathy .
If you sense that he is ready , you can propose to him and see how he takes it.You need to lay your cards on the table and it will be his move.
It would be better to know earlier than to wait for another few years .
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http://dating.over-blog.net/article-beware-the-rebound-relationship-43355369.html
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reader, hmae89  +, writes (14 March 2010):
How long have you been together? I wouldn't start worrying unless you guys have been together for like 4-5 years or something. Some people are scared of marriage. If he just came out of a 7 year relationship then most likely he is scared of commitment right now. Just keep showing him how much you love him and be happy just being with him. If it's meant to be, it will happen! Good Luck! :)
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 If he was with another girl 7 years and not married, perhaps he does not place any value in that institution/ bit of paper (depends how you look at it) and is not the type who would ever ask someone to marry him, least of all someone he has been with 6 months. I would think that time frame a bit rash for decisions like that in any circumstances.
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reader, veronika +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Why do you want to get married so soon? You only got together with him last year, and before that he was in a relationship for 7 years. I'm betting he's not thinking about marriage.HOWEVER, that doesn't mean he doesn't want to commit to you. People feel ready for marriage at different ages. Some people don't like the idea of marriage altogether. It's entirely individual.It seems to me like you're a little desperate to just get married, full stop. But you need to take his side into consideration. If he's not ready to propose and get married, you need to respect that. It's not as if he's not committing. If he didn't want to commit, you'd know. Just give it time if you want him to propose. Or you could propose to him and see how he takes it. But just be understanding that marriage is a big thing, and some people like to wait a few years.
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reader, suganya  +, writes (13 March 2010):
hi, don't worry, a man who have faced the failure in first love will never lose this second. it seems that he likes you. just put some question about his future life to him, and first check out whether you r really his heart. then start talking about the marriage,(ur marriage) which will surely make him the feel that he should lose you and he will propose you soon.be happy your love life will go to marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): Please get a grip and have some perspective. He just came out of a SEVEN YEAR relationship last year and has been with you for a grand total of 6 months. It's WAY too soon for either of you to be thinking about marrying each other. You're still young. Have some patience.
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