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writes:I am ending a 16 month relationship due to his disloyalty and lying. He currently lives with me in a home I own. I want him to leave and he won't! I have confronted him with his lies and cheating and he seems to be in complete denial about all of it! He blames everyone else for everything that has ever gone wrong in his life. It is an un-healthy relationship for me and I want to do things in the right way. I love him but cannot be subjected to his lies and behaviors any longer. He refuses to leave and says that if I want him out, I will need to call the police. That is not my style, I don't need the neighbors gossiping or the unnecessary drama of having the police involved. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Changing the locks is good but I think to be on the safe side you will need to inform the police that you have done so. That way if he does indeed try to break in then it will be tresspassing and B&E, otherwise since he has been living there he can just say he forgot his keys, his word against yours kind of thing. Let the police know.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Hi there, Since you don't want to involve the law and I guess i can understand. Why not change all your locks, and be done with it. He appears to be unreasonable, and possibly stuck on stupid. So I would call a good locksmith, change every lock and have very secure locks on the windows. If he breaks in, then it's a crime and you have no choice but to report it. No one deserves to be harrassed. he knows you care about him and he is trying to work on that part of the situation, but sometimes as they say, love is not enough. Free your life of aggravation. If he is not going to listen and leave, call the locksmith, in his presence so he knows you mean business. Take care. Stay in touch. Hoping your New Year brings peace.
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reader, tazza  +, writes (29 December 2008):
speak to him upfront after sitting him down buy use small words and try to express yor point of veiw such as taxes and ask him that for the moment you are talking you only want the truth if he is able to be truthful through the whole coversation and let him understand the you do not want lies or innapropriate behavior. then after a moment tell it to him that you do not want him to be around your house and that if he doesn't leave you shall contact the police for trespassing but for now haang in there it will all be over soon.
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