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writes:i was in a relation ship with an older man, he was married and he just had a kid. they were not doing so good they were sort of broke up, but stupid me started a relationship with him. we fell in love she found out and instead of just being broke up she wanted a divorce. he was mad and he tried to fix it but it did not work out and i pushed him to try to fix it. he came back to me and i tried to move on by dating some guy that i did not even care about. but the the "the older guy" found out and was all mad that i lied to him and i did a lot so u guess i undertand why he did not want anything after i am not the most trust worthy person. but i think about him all the time. and i was in a relation ship with a guy that cheated and i am changing my ways because it sucks and i never want anyone that i date to have to go through that. now i am working on that and i want to show "the older guy" that i am working on that i want him back so i txtxed him and he said to forget him. so i am going to do that even though it kills me because i love him. I JUST WANT TO KNOW HOE TO GET OVER THIS MAN THAT I LOVE?
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reader, Time wont let me go  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Thanks so much you helped me a lot! =-)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (3 September 2010):
 Your young and mixed up, he was married and lying. It's guilt that is killing him, you have done exactly what he did, and now he knows just how it feels.
Don't worry, he has no right to get so angry. He expected you to wait whilst he went home to his wife. Your guy knows all about cheating and lying and using people. He's just angry because you gave him a taste of his own bad medicine and he doesn't like how it tastes.
You and young and in love, we all make mistakes. Dry your tears, go out with the girls, set some goals and make something of yourself. Stop worrying about this man who could dump you so easily. That's not love, that's just his bloody selfish arrogance showing. He'll be with some new girl by now, or he'll be begging his wife to take him back.
He hasn't cared enough about your feelings or that of his wife, he's only cared about himself and he has got what he deserves. Now go and make yourself proud of your life and leave this man alone.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (3 September 2010):
 You were in a dilema and got your self into tricky situations because of this. Emotions take over and we can do stupid things that we later regret. He may not forgive you now because he can't trust you but then again he may need reminding how he went behind his wifes back for what ever reason so he too can't be trusted. If he doesnt want you back then all you can do is devise ways to get over him. That can only come from you and your own strength. Try to think of all the bad things about the relationship, that usually helps us to move on.
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