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writes:DC, I miss him so much. I met this guy 3 months ago, and all he wanted was sex without any affection. I knew I would just be used so I dropped the whole idea of being with him especially because he didn't want to try LDR. He had said he liked me but since we live far from each other, it would be impossible for us to relate. We live in different countries, but we have each other's contacts. 2 days ago I sent him an e-mail saying I had something very important to tell him that would probably change our lives forever. He replied for the first time, and said "what is it". I told him I had a scholarship to study in his country and I thought that would prompt him to ask more questions. He has not even asked when I would be going to study to date. As a way of his background, this guy was hurt in his past marriage, claiming his ex-wife cheated on him. But from the way we were progressing, he probably was the one who cheated on the wife.He did mention that he had lost interest in love..that he only lives for a moment. He was in the US navy for eight years and now he is 29, in the University.I REALLY like him and in some way, I feel he needs me to be able to love again, and live a normal life. He is pessimistic, while I on the other hand, I am very optmistic, patient and so full of love. I have not been successful with relationships, but I have never let go of my dreams of a great relationship. I have heard guys say how their ladies made them men of virtue. I want to try and make this guy reform and also be my man. What can I do to make this guy like me? All answers are welcome. Thanks.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 you can't make someone have feelings for you. don't make the mistake of thinking you can fix this 'poor broken man'. he has shown you disinterest and disrespect from the outset. see him for what he is, you're wasting your time and affection on him, move on
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (21 August 2011):
 There's really nothing you can do to get him to change. He is who he is and unless he decides to change himself and it happens to be the change you want, then he won't be the person you would like to be with. If he just wants to live in the moment now and you want a relationship, you both are on two different pages and won't agree on this. And if you think he's the one that cheated, then why would you take a chance on him? Some people are cheaters forever and some are not, but he's not worth the risk. I think you should move on from this guy and meet someone else. But if you decide to keep pursuing him, then don't expect things to go in your favor for a while, if at all.
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