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writes: My husband and I have been together 15 years, since we were teenagers. We did the usual stuff - talking about marriage, kids and all that. When we talked about family, we always had 2 children in mind . We now have a child who has started school. Whenever I bring up the subject of having another baby, the baby we always talked about having, he says it's not the right time. He has been saying this since our other child was born , nearly 5 years ago. We have had problems due to circumstances after our child was born, but we've spent hours discussing them and understand where we went wrong last time. I know he thinks we'll end up having problems again and I've tried to reassure that as we know what went wrong last time, we won't make the same mistakes again. Things are back to normal between us again which is why I've mentined having another baby. I feel like he's stringing me along and doesn't really want another baby, while I'm desperate to have one and complete our family.Is it me being too pushy? At 33, I don't want to wait too much longer to have a baby, or to have too big an age gap between our oldest child and a baby. Reply to this Question
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (10 May 2005):
I'm afraid it has to be a joint decision.Maybe when he means not the right time, he not mean it's not the right month, year etc. Maybe he means not the right time of day?? I don't know what the problems were, whether they were RE: your sexual life or something to do with the baby, but he might have a problem with his sperm, i.e. not too active etc. - Your (both male and female) sex drive is better in the morning then it is at night, maybe it's a good idea if not to try in the morning sometime rather then at night as you probably do?At 33 you are not too old by a long chalk, but I would recommend you to if you having one have a baby around now.Maybe, as you gone on about it for about 5 years, you should say you want another baby, even if you have to go elsewhere to get it. Good Luck ;)
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