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writes:lately i have been having a dryspell and it all started when my career started pikcing up. in my field, i do heavy pressure and stressful work that drains me. my social life has really taken a hit because of this. nowadays i can still meet girls because i am aesthetic and somewhat in shape, but it doesn't go any past the initial meeting or getting their number. i think this is due to how my mentality is driven by work.i have asked close friends about my behavior lately and they say that i can come off as standoffish to new peolpe i meet who might not necessarily know who i am and how i am. some issues that i may currently have:i'll either have anxiety driven by work and text too needyor my mind will be too preoccupied by work that i do not text back a girl until a very long time and it usually starts off pretty flirty and laughy, but then it gets cold, and then this lead turns dead and no contact. im thinking girls might think im standoffish or mean, bt thats not really the case. how can i meet new girls and keep them on the hook and go on dates and move past the initial meeting?or maybe i have just becomw this type of person. i used to be really good with the ladies too and be able to date them, and hook up with them. any ladies have some insight?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 January 2014):
 Find the time to go to the gym first (not to look fit, but to boost your energy) and then be aware of how you act around people (not just women but everyone).
And don't try and FORCE a relationship because you would like to have a friendly bed-mate or someone to talk to.
It could also be that you haven't MET anyone recently that you wanted to go that extra mile for, so consider that too.
Relationship, friendships and marriages TAKES work. It should feel like an extra load on top of your "work" but paying attention, making an effort is BARE minimum.
The fact that you have GOOD work ethics IS A PLUS,because it shows that you HAVE work ethics.
Find the time for the Gym and a hobby or a Saturday night going out with friends AT LEAST 2 a month.
Going to the gym is seriously like getting your battery charged. You will feel better, look better and do better so it really is another PLUS.
Love will come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsadly honeypie might be on to something...i dont even know how to change this routine now. i dont even know that its happening.
i forget how to put in that efffort as well. or dont have the energy/time.
wish someone who is s lave to work could also tell me how they got outta this funk...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 January 2014):
Seems like you are not quite capable of doing more then one thing at a time, before I'm sure you put a LOT more effort and energy into your "dating" or "chasing girls" game and now, work is more important.
I think you just haven't met anyone who made you feel like you SHOULD put in more effort. You get out what you put in (so to speak) and right now, you barely GIVE anything and thus... you GET nothing in return. It's simple logic.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (16 January 2014):
 Not a lady...
Life is just trying to tell you to stop the B.S, and settle your ass down. That simple.
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