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writes:hello, I've had a problem for the past few weeks with my boyfriend which i would really appreciate some advice on. We've been going out for 8 months and its been great but recently he's been really moody and argumentative. We see each other every weekend he stop round each other from friday til monday as he lives fairly far, during the week he's out with mates but gets annoyed when i text him or ignores me, theres one friend of his who's female, i don't get along with her but there really good friends,he told me before that he thought she was weird and really ugly but im confussed as he recently told me that before he met me he snogged her whilst drunk and told me "she wasnt bad to kiss, she's alright" .... surly you would'nt say that to your girlfriend right? He said he would never do it again he doesnt cheat and says he truly loves me? i trust him but i always have this doubt in the back of my mind as she texts him a lot, should i worry? he acts like he puts his mates first and i cant say anything bad about his ex's or girl "mates" .... i scared i'll lose him, what should i say or do? x x x
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reader, sweetest_sin  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 Okay, I have to be honest with you, 8 months is a long time and I have been in a similar position to yours and if there is any advice I can give, it's to simply trust your gut.That feeling is a natural instinct and there is definitely something not right or that you disagree with regarding what's going on. I understand that you love him and care for him, but don't you think you deserve someone a little bit better than that? Drunk-snogging with another girl and flirtatiously texting her too? You are right! Who in the right mind would say something like that, who's supposed to be in a commited relationship? He's blatantly trying to mess up with your mind. You should give yourself some self-respect, it may be hard to believe but there are men in this world that would treat you better. Someone a girl would like to be with is someone who will love them, care for them, listen to them, whether you agree or not and is willing to compromise and make sacrifices. That's what a relationship is about. I mean sure he can say he'll change, but if you're feeling the way you do now, then I'm guessing no progress has been made?And uh-huh, when you come to the point where you're forced to weigh both sides, run gurrl. Run fast, run before it's too late. Because it will get ugly, and you know that you WILL get hurt.
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