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writes:Dear Cupid:I'm just your average 18 year old guy i have a beautiful G/F. Well i'm goign straight to the point. You see last night my G/F and our former friend told in front of everyone (we had like 8 ppl in the chat)that she liked him...although i thought it was a lie, it was true she admitted it to me, but then she tells me that it was before we went out. I didn't tell her but i know i have a good memory before he was ever in the picture me and her went out. So now i know it can be a lie because like i said before he was even added to msn we WERE going out i don't know anymore. But as soon as i knew that, it's torn me to shreds, i mean 'cuz she was like so open with him she would start any random msn convo, but last night they were arguing because he never liked my G/F's father saying that she shouldn't obey him (she's 17).Well until things got outta hand so i deleted him from the list although because of that she's not allowed to use msn at the moment. I found out her account password if she was doing some sort of flirt with him before. I read all her past messages, but i read it all i didn't see any type of flirting in none of those comments yet she was so open with him. I feel uneeded i feel as if i was not getting enough affection nor attention, although she and he told me b4 that he likes her as a sister and she said that she liked him as a brother.I read her messages they did chat, but it was not in a flirty way, he would always say i love you sissy, then she said i love you bro? o.o I didn't see any type of attraction to him but the fact she used to chat with him so much, it made me feel sorta left out. I know she loves me but i need help advice please. I did admit to my G/F that i liked his ex which makes us in a way of being "even" but what she described to me wasn't true she said "it's true there was a time when i liked him but it was before we went out". I didn't believe her although i was "pissed". I didn't say but as now as i realize it, it wasn't the way she thought it was or was she lying to me? Because we met waaaaaaaay before she met him or he decided to be in the picture. I trust her but i don't know what to do, they don't talk anymore, he left so he won't be bothering, but he so disgusting, he even told his ex (our BFF) to get cancer again and to die... i need advice please, sorry i made this so long.Thanks.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 April 2008):
Wow you are a paranoid person!!
She chatted to someone else online. BIG WOOP!!! For gods sake, they no longer talk, she doesn't like him, she is with you.
Get over it and fast because the thing that is going to split you up is you hacking into her accounts. I would not want to be with someone who didn't trust me, and who invaded my privacy like that.
Work on making your relationship open and trusting so you can be close and talk about things better than they used to.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Your getting yourself all worked up and your minds working overtime hunny, Its really not your place to read her messages unless your doing it together..You said she is not allowed to use msn at the moment, I presume that her family have put a ban of some kind on it. Hunny that does not give you the right to delete it..As you are acting controlling.. Allowing her to do what you feel is right and good for her without letting her make decitions. If she has had an argument with her parents or father then its up to them to deal with it..You said that there was no flirting so there is no problem really she said she liked him along time ago but that has past, You then have to make things square by saying you liked his ex, Was that true or just to get even. If its true then what has she done wrong that you havent...They no longer talk and he wasnt a very nice person with his words, So If I were you hunny Id put all this behind you and forget about him and get on with your life with your g/f and have some trust, You said you trusted her but looking through her messages says different love, Feeling left out and actually been left out are two different things it sounds as if you were jealous of the attention she gave to this friend..People will come and go in our lives hunny and bring something to it...Its all part of growing and learning and you no you would never be cruel like this person was, So pop it down to a learning experience hunny and enjoy your g/f and your life together TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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