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writes: I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend since march 07, last night i asked him does he believe in 'the one' which he replied 'no', however i do believe in one and truly believe he is it. I know he loves me but for some reason i know feel used and don't know where to stand. Can anyone help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhiya
thank you for answering my question, i was looking for attention and thank you for making me see sense
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 Hi, I think that girls tend to be more romantic than boys in general. Also speaking in superlatives, as in using words like: the most, the only, the best, always, forever, the 'one'; using these words is a wee bit dramatic. I know that you feel very strongly for him, and I'm sure he cares for you too, but you did ask him a question that most of us would answer 'no' to. As Tellulah said, as you grow older your perspective on life changes and you might find that you won't need to ask this question.
I think that you were looking for some assurance from him that he really really loves you. But you asked him a loaded question. So while I appreciate that your feelings were hurt by this, I suggest that you remember the fact that he was honest with you. You shouldn't be feeling used because he doesn't believe in the concept of 'the one.' Give him a break on this one; you're just damaging the relationship if you insist on superlatives.
Take care.
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reader, TheVirg +, writes (22 July 2008):
I agree with tellulah, but personally I do believe in "the one" but since it is nearly impossible to find the one out of 3 billion of the opposite sex, I believe that it will never be found and might as well be untrue.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 Hi,
I think that when you are young, girls do tend to believe this. But ask yourself honestly, if you lost your B/F today and could never see him again, are you sure that after a while you wouldnt want to meet anyone else ever. Its very rare to only have one love in your life, and I think thats a good thing. I dont think that your B/F was being horrible to you, I think he was being honest about the way he feels.
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