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writes:About a year a go i started seeing my ex boyfriend we went out for 6 months but every weekend we ended up in arguments because he took drugs which scared the hell out of me as i saw what it was doing to him.. when he wasnt on them he was the nicest peson i have ever met wed go on dates have fun in the bedroom he was my bestfriend.. then an argument went too far and we split up after the 6 months he started going clubbing and about 2 weeks after hed met someone else ibumped into them on a night out and ended up meeting someone else i wanted to get over him but we kept texting each other then we agreed to meet up.. we ended up in bed together cause when were together things are fine were both happy .. then things went bad that i wanted to see him more and we ended up in another argument and i really believed things were over soo i started going on dates and met someone who made me feel special . after a day out we ended up in our local pub and my ex walked and tried to get a reaction out of me but i walked away that night i went out and he was out he ended up texting me saying how he made a mistake and he would change .. he said how if he was gannah be with me hed make it right. so i ended it with the new guy and he never changed.. i love him soo much but i know that he wont change.. i tried getting over him but wherever i go im reminded of how he used to be... we dont talk anymore but he always stares at me i wont get with anyone cause i dont want to mess anyone around cause i know at a snap of a finger ill be with him. please helpxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Well, hope my feedback helped you.
But yes, I know what its like. Just keep reminding yourself of his bad points and think of ways to have fun, and how much better you'll be without him in your life!
Try to be specific in planning fun activities. Maybe take a day trip to a place you've always wanted to visit. The idea is to fill your heart and head with enough other things that there won't be room in your mind to think about him. Put some effort and focus into doing that, and it will work!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks I know I keep telling myself those things but you know what its like when you like someone its easy to forget their bad point but he does have alot of them thanks for your advicexxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): First off, anyone who is on drugs has big problems, and will cause those around him lots of grief and trouble.
Second, you say he is your ex-boyfriend. Evidently things were not going well, or you wouldn't have split up with him to begin with, right?
Third, now you have tried going out with him again, and its still not working. He told you he'd change, but didn't. This is to be expected from a drug addict. On the basis of an empty promise that he would "do right" by you, you ended with the new man you were dating - which might, or might not, have been a happier situation for you.
You need to be strong, and recognize that he is not a good person for you to be involved with. The best way to do this is to stay away from pubs, clubs, whatever, where you know you are likely to run into him. Make up your mind that this is over, no future in it, and stick to that decision.
One final comment: "at the snap of a finger I'll be with him." Uh uh. You know better than to tell yourself that kind of nonsense! Who is in control here, you or him? I sincerely hope YOU are in control of your own life!
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